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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I had a SIL go and book a hotel because staying at my house didn't meet her comfort standards. Ultimately the comfort standards are irrelevant--whether it's an air mattress or a twin bed it just doesn't matter. When someone extends the offer of hospitality, it's one of the most generous and intimate invitations they can extend. To have it rejected because it is imperfect to the recipient is so insulting. Why? Because the host is also really inconvenienced by the arrangement but they've made a statement that all of us being together is more important than me keeping my house perfectly tidy or any other superficial measure of perfection. What is most important is being together. By rejecting your offer you are saying the opposite--that being physically comfortable is more important than being together. You are also implying that her house isn't good enough--which she already knows and by extending hospitality to you she was making the smallness of her house a vulnerability that you just pounced on. It hurts. [/quote]

Drama Queen! Wow.

Nope, it's not some huge statement or huge rejection. It's not some deep, debasing insult. It's simply that grown-ass people need a decent night's sleep in a decent bed, and some time and space for themselves. Period. Being together is important, but you don't have to spend every moment of every day sitting in each other's laps and waiting in line 20 minutes for the bathroom to have meaningful together time.

Sometimes it really is about what it's about. And in this case, it's about a real actual mattress.

If OP changed her mind and only let her brother/SIL know about this a few days ago, then yes, she sucks. But not for ANY of the reasons listed above.
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