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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My kids aren't this âge yet but the book 123 Magic addresses older kids in the last chapters. Two things he recommends are natural consequences and bartering.
[b]Natural consequences means that if she wants to watch TV instead of preparing for basketball practice then she will be late and have to deal with her coach.[/b]
Bartering means that if she doesn't want to clear her plate, that's fine but you will charge $10 to do it for her. She can decide whether to pay the fee or do it herself. This works if she has spending money or an allowance and if you have no qualms about getting paid.[/quote]

I have neither the time nor the interest to deal with this bullshit. :shock: [/quote]

NP. How is the bolded bullshit? That's been pretty much our approach on most things. You choose your action, you choose the consequences, but your actions don't get to create a crisis -- practical or emotional -- for anyone else. 4 kids, 22, 20, 12, and 3. The 3 year old isn't generally ready for this approach yet, but it works or worked reasonably for the older kids.[/quote]

Not a fan of 123 Magic or bartering.  On the other hand, I like natural consequences (best written in Love and Logic, imo), even as young as 3.  For very young kids, I'm willing to help (child doesn't want to put on a coat, I will put it in the trunk, but they still have to wait til I can pull over to get it, and the coat will be cold), older kids and teens can reason out the consequences for themselves.[/quote]

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