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[quote=Anonymous]Well since we're trading personal anecdotes, here are three of mine:

1.  My mom and dad are 10 years apart.  She is currently a sprightly 75 year old, and he's a very decrepit 85 year-old. They've been married for 50+ years.  My mom counseled me not to marry an older man because "he'll be very jealous of you and you'll spend your life explaining that you didn't REALLY look at that guy, you were simply looking at something else in that general direction.  And most importantly, you will instantly age ten years because he will make you live the life of someone ten years older."  My dad is neither richer nor more socially prominent than my mom, they were simply two people who fell in love 50+ years ago.

2.  When I was 17, I had a 2-year relationship with a 34-year old man (stupid, I know).  He was very anxious to tie the knot, and had a 15-year old daughter who lived with us.  Never again. All our disagreements had to end with "I know better 'cause I am older and I am showing you the ways of the world."  Left at 19, without a ring, thank god.

3.  At 24, I started a 4-year relationship with a 48-year old man (I know, I know). Absolutely fantastic guy, we were madly in love and I miss him to this day. We got engaged (stupid me), although he was very explicit about his desire for no more kids.  At 25, I thought these differences don't matter.  Two years later he was diagnosed with brain cancer and died two years after that.  I did NOT enjoy dealing with this at 28 years of age, and it probably screwed me up for a good couple of years.  NEVER AGAIN.  Don't want to deal with death and disease before I have to.

Married now to someone seven years older who is my peer, not an "older man".  I don't regret my history but these relationships were a bad bet long-term.  If my daughter inherits my love of older men, I will counsel her to enjoy them short-term but marry someone her own age bracket.[/quote]

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