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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The reason we ugly girls fight the "you're just a different kind of pretty" is twofold.

1) While beauty is subjective to a certain extent, there is 100% an agreed-upon objective list of physical attricbutes required to be a conventionally-attractive women in the US in 2015.  That is a fact.  It is also a fact that those who adhere to these conventional standards of beauty recieve preferential treatment.  When you tell me that I would be attractive if I only put wnough effort in, you are telling me that all the looks-based discrimination I have dealt with was my fault because I didn't work hard enough on my appearance.  That is sexist bullshit.  I should not have to spend a lot of time and money on my appearance in order to be treated like a person.

2) When I say that I am not pretty, I am not telling you that I have no worth as a person, only that I do not possess a specific attribute and that I lack the priviledge that accompanies that specific attribute, and an attribute that SHOULD carry almost no weight over my overall worth, given how subject and liable to change that attribute is.  When you insist that I AM pretty and that stating that I am ugly implies that I have low-self-worth, you are perpetuating a belief that my worth is IN ANY WAY related to my physical appearance.  It is not and should not be related.  Do not try to impose you belief that I cannot have high-self-worth AND be ugly.[/quote]

You rock! Thank you! I was having trouble articulating this.

Also, beauty standards are "youth centric."  If you tell people to work on it, you are asking them to chase a standard that is not possible for most of us as we age, rather than acknowledge that loss of objective, physical beauty occurs as we age, but that we gain money, wisdom, and experience in exchange.  Middle age women run so much in our communities, but we don't celebrate them for their power. We tsk-tsk them because they are no longer physically beautiful. [/quote]

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