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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's just too hard when you've got little ones waking up during the night and at least one of you having to leave for work in the morning at 4:30am.  You are "on" all day, it's nice to come home, put your feet up or go outside and quietly work in the garden.  I can't imagine being ever ready to host a crowd of folks too.  And being labeled "rude" for being too tired to do so..[/quote]
I cannot imagine feeling like I have to be "on" around my mom or MIL. If I cannot relax around them and be myself, what a shame.
I do not feel line a host when either are around, they are my family. I don't feel like having them for dinner or taking my kid to the park, I can say that to them, no problem . Same way if they don't feel line having me over because they are enjoying their solitude or whatever they are doing.
And I could not care any less if they offered my kid something I have to say no to. Big freaking deal.[/quote]

Then I will crown you "Miss Perfect Daughter/DIL".  Here's your crown and your bouquet of roses.  There are some contests I know that I'm just not even going to enter...I have no chance.  Enjoy.[/quote]
sister please, not that deep, the fact that you think it's a contest...[/quote]

You are the one saying how "sad" it is that some people don't like it when their family members show up on their doorstep and proceed to intrude on their own plans.  Yeah, I'm sure your 3 year old would take it really well if you said "No, you can't go to the park with Grammy and Grammy can't stay for dinner".  That is so awesome for you.  My own 3 year olds would have been upset by being told no in that situation.  And that would have sucked because up until that point we had been doing something fun together - just my child and me.  But of course - that would have all been okie dokie in your world.  So I will give you "Miss Perfect Mom of Perfect Child" award too.  Congrats![/quote]
Not perfect, but I can deal with a disappointed 3 yr old. Part of parenting. I can also go with the flo and say its not a good time for family dinner. And if it was not, but DH wanted his mom over or "let" her come over I could learn to get over myself and realize that life is just not about me and my petty annoyances. [/quote]

You sound like someone who simply doesn't need their own personal space. You don't plan things for yourself or if you do you are o.k. with your plans being interrupted by whomever, whenever and that your dh's (and extended family's) wants take precedence over your own.  That's not just laid back, that is very passive.  I operate differently.  
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I also operate differently. I don't want people showing up in my space. Would it be nice if I naturally felt relaxed around my mom or MIL? Sure, but I don't. That does not indicate anything wrong with me.

Weird how some people can't see that.[/quote]

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