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If cash is the polite gift, then it seems like there is no need to spell it out.

I'll tell you what I'm not doing -- I'm not paying off someone's student loans. Ugh. [/quote]

No gift is expected, it's IF you would like to give a gift then no boxed gift.  Cash, check, gift card, that sort of thing would be better.

As far as not wanting to help a new couple get out of debt, that's fine.  But please understand that the cultural mentality is different with South Asians.  We would be happy knowing that we helped a young couple start out more financially secure.  It would be better than a new set of champagne glasses.

You are in no way obligated to give a cash/check/gift card gift.  You don't have to take give a gift at all and the family will be just as happy that you are celebrating the wedding with them.  If you really feel the need to take a toaster or whatever, please go ahead and do so.  No one will give you the side eye as [b]we know it's not your culture.[/b]

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Hmm.  I'm South Asian and married a white American.  We had a registry because my husband's family wanted us to put one up.  The majority of our South Asian guests bought off the registry.  I wouldn't say this is a "cultural" thing.  [/quote]

Well that's because you had a registry.  Of course their going to buy off of it if that's the gift option your giving.

We are very aware that it is more customary in American culture to do registries and if you were marrying a white American it would be seen as normal for you to have one.  So the polite thing to do then would be to send a gift from the registry, since that's the culture of your spouse.

And all of South Asia doesn't do things the same, I stated that earlier when I explained how my dh and I had two different wedding invitations because of the way gifts are given.  The South Asian culture from his region is different from the South Asian culture in my region.

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