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[quote=Anonymous]NP here.  The PPs who are attacking OP for being petty and cheap are the ones who don't get it.  Blended families are hard on everyone -- the kids, the remarried spouse, the ex and the step-parent.   Do you people really not understand that plenty of ex-wives pull crap like this on purpose?? Is it really that unreasonable for OP to feel so frustrated and disrespected??  So before you defend the ex and eviscerate OP, have enough sense to realize how difficult these situations can be.

OP - it sounds like you and your husband do a lot for his kids, and that's wonderful.  It's not easy being a step-parent -- it's often a thankless job and even if you do just as much as a biological parent, you often don't get the same joys and special moments that come with raising children which can offset the difficult side of parenting.  On top of that, you have to deal with an ex, who may be manipulative and difficult, maybe because she's still pissed at your husband over the divorce, or because she doesn't like you or feels threatened by your role in her kids' lives.  While I completely understand your frustration with the ex, from a practical standpoint, there may not be much you can do about it short of going back to court to force her to pay up (doubt she would voluntarily pay if you kept a running tab or exchanged receipts) or going to court/mediation to renegotiate the terms of the custody order.  That's often more trouble than it's worth, especially if that means the amount of monthly support you currently pay could increase (I have no idea whether it would and won't opine on that).  In the end, you may have to accept the fact that the amount you and your husband pay may never be "equal" to what the ex pays.  It will probably never feel "fair" to you, even if, in theory, it should be fair.  It probably doesn't make you feel better now, but you're doing a good thing by providing so much for the kids and they are the ones most affected by all of this.  Hang in there.[/quote]

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