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[quote]Oh, she has a physical disorder.

You are recommending that someone use this terminology in front of their own SN kid? I can tell that you:

(a) don't have a special-needs kid 
 (b) haven't read through this whole thread

You're right on (a) [b]and not on (b). [/b][/quote]

15:57 here. I still can't help but be surprised that someone who read this entire thread, including the damaged chromosome/Julie Andrews interchange, would still make your suggestion. It should have been clear that those of us with special-needs kids don't feel like we need to repeat to every passerby (and, in this case, kids who are intentionally being mean) the nature of our child's condition. As OP pointed out, it hurts our children to make constant reference to it, and it hurts us, too. And yes, this happens constantly, hence the name of this thread.

When my daughter was small, I used to feel like I owed the whole world an explanation as to how she looked, and why she did (or couldn't do) certain things. Now I see that I did not, and do not, owe people this. She is who she is, and I do not have to explain her to anyone. She has as much right to be herself, just the way she is, as anyone else does. If people stare, or are made uncomfortable by her, it's their problem, not mine.

If people are kind, and show curiosity or concern in a non-judgmental way, I am happy to answer their questions.  It's easy to tell when people, especially kids, are being this way. But, in this case, these children were trying to make fun. They did not deserve an explanation.

So, no. It's not the word "disorder" that bugs me--at least, not this time. It's your suggestion that an explanation was owed.

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