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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This thread is so disheartening.  White woman married to a Black man.  We are best friends and the relationship felt completely natural from the moment we met, just as I always hoped I'd feel when meeting my life partner.  We now have children together.  He was totally accepted into my immediate family from the start, they respected him, loved him and viewed him as a son from very early.  He would say the same about his experience with my family.  Some of my extended family was uncomfortable at first, but most embraced him as they would any deserving man I brought home.  His family was probably a little less enthusiastic at first, but welcomed me anyway, and once both families got to know the other,iPod background didn't matter so much.  I understand why some people have a hard time with this given the country's history, as well as how race & skin color is viewed throughout the world.  But I also never felt like I could apologize for friending, and then falling in love with my husband.  And he has no self-hate, or low self-esteem, or whatever else PP suggested.  I think more and more people are dating outside of their culture, and those who are uncomfortable with it need to step into the 21st century.  I'm sick of generalizations on all sides.  And PS, as a parent, and I'm one myself, you have no control over who your child dates or decides to marry.  You can control your own behavior, so I suggest checking yourself before judging others and trust and respect your daughter or son.[/quote]

In all honestly, you don't know how your family or your DH's family feel about your relationship. If my son decides to marry a white woman, I would not let on that I'm deeply disappointed. He's my son and I will always love him, so I would never do anything to intentionally hurt him.

I'm not sure why you find this thread disheartening. As I said earlier, *you* may not see the self-hate/low self-esteem present in your DH. He probably doesn't even see it. But trust me....it's there on some level. Not saying it's the deciding factor in why he chose you as his partner, but it is there. Out of curiosity, how did you meet your husband? [/quote]

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