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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A large family is essentially a high-intensity social environment. Like an athlete training in high altitudes, these kids often emerge very "strong" and capable, but the "training" itself is undeniably more taxing than a quiet life in the suburbs.[/quote].

Please, this is a myth. I know plenty of people from large families who don’t talk to their families and only see them on Christmas.

The kids suffer from lack of parental attention, lack of academic support, lack of involvement in general and also having the responsibilities to take care of younger siblings. Yes, they do chores and learn to fend for themselves, but it comes at a price.[/quote]

Hoo boy.

1.  What is your work and social life like that you know so many people estranged from their families?!  I know only a few, not due to family size. My social circle is financially comfortable, smart, educated people and the vast majority have decent relationships with their family, regardless of size.

2.  “Lack of parental attention” - how many hours / week do parents need to be giving their kids attention?  Does it need to be one on one attention?  Can parents have hobbies outside their children?  What is the time limit for parents to work out?

3.  “Lack of academic support” - you mean parents reading to and helping the kid with homework?  Can that be outsourced to tutors or no?

4.  “Lack of involvement” - you mean coaching little league?  Sitting in the bleachers during gymnastics practice scrolling their phone?  How much involvement is enough?

5.  “Take care of younger siblings” - do you mean pour them a bowl of Cheerios or take them to doctors appointments?  Cook a gourmet meal for younger siblings or take them on a walk around the block?  Does it matter if the older sibling gets paid?  Do you have an issue with older siblings babysitting neighborhood kids or feel like that ruins their childhood?

6.  “Do chores” - ummm shouldn’t all kids do chores?!?  [/quote]

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