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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Be an adult. Set the boundaries you want to set. Communicate. If it gets flirty, decide what you want to do but accept it would be just sex with nothing else.

Unless he has other business in town, then yes he would likely enjoy being invited into your bed. If he is coming just into see you and hang out with you, he is hoping for Netflix and chill[/quote]

He does have other business in town (not just coming to see me or the area). 
I won’t say no if he makes the move, but I am not going to make the first move because he is so much better looking I feel self-conscious, plus I don’t want to hear the “but I’m married”. [/quote]

But he IS married.  It doesn’t matter if she doesn’t understand him, their sex isn’t good, they don’t have sex anymore, or he’s thinking about divorce, they are still married.

Normally, I would say that as a friend you should go beyond “not flirting” and make sure the interaction is framed as “just friends” with anything “friendlier” being off the table - asking about his wife and any kids, and bringing them up repeatedly in positive terms, keeping things casual and detached, and avoiding any kind of intimacy altogether. A friend would want to support her friend’s marriage and family, not allow any room for anything that might cause him guilt or strife later.

Moreover, I would add that I would say you should have more self-respect than to have sex with the kind of low-life who would cheat on his wife.

On the other hand, you’re apparently the kind of low-life who thinks it’s perfectly fine to sleep with a married man and finds the prospect appealing, your only worry is your pride if he turns you down.

If you have any shred of decency, don’t do this.  If not for his sake, or your own, then do it for the sake of his wife.  She has built her life around the assumption that he can be trusted with her physical, emotional, and financial well-being as well as that of any children they may have, based on the promises he made her.  You have no right to be any part of undermining that, certainly not to feed your ego.[/quote]

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