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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband recently dropped a bombshell on me and asked to have an open relationship. He is telling me that he still loves me he just wants to hook up with other people but is not interested in dating anyone else. I’m really not sure what to think of this or how to respond. Just for context, I am in my 30s and we have two kids. We have been married for almost 8 years. I was very surprised about this conversation and kind of in shock, so I told him I needed some time to think. What should I say to him and how would you respond if your husband asked for permission to sleep around?[/quote]

[b]He has already had sex with someone else, OP. And it’s probably a regular thing.

BTDT with my ex-wife asking this question.

It didn’t end well. [/quote][/b]

Was your bedroom “dead?”[/quote]

Yes.[/quote]

Why do you have dead bedroom ? You are no longer attracted to him ? [/quote]

I'm the husband. That's a complicated question rooted in medical reasons (cancer treatment) that morphed into drifting apart. Separate bedrooms for snoring (at least that was the lie we told ourselves). Then I grew tired of being talked down to all the time so I withdrew more. Wasn't about to cheat and didn't want to see my kids half the time or less, so I endured it. Finally, she decided I was the source of her unhappiness and was encouraged by a therapist to "self-actualize." So, she hooked up with a business partner. I found out, we separated. Kids teens by then. Custody was 50-50 on paper but they chose to be with me 90% of the time. Seven years on, kids are launched, I'm happy and remarried and from what I hear, she's still miserable. At least the cancer didn't come back.

She asked ME for the Open Marriage, even telling me there was "no side piece." It was one of the many lies I discovered. [/quote]

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