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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I love seeing them.  This is so weird.  I have two in college about to graduate and I still love seeing where kids land. [/quote]

Why?  Why do you care?  Why do you think it matters at all?  Especially if it's not your kid?  I'm genuinely curious.[/quote]

This is pretty sad.  How can the idea of pleasure over your friends achievements be such a foreign concept? [/quote]

DP.
Here’s the thing. Pleasure is great but you’re being dishonest if you don’t admit that there’s a huge element of narcissistic bragging at play for many parents, and I think that’s what irks some of us. As example, my friends son struggled in high school and when he got into college, I was overjoyed for him. Same with another friend’s dc who worked his butt off in high school, juggling academics and sports, and was recruited at a D1. Same for a friends son who got into Yale who she worried about socially as a kid. These are otherwise humble families. But in contrast, I know some people who have really taken to SM to brag about vacations, other ‘cool’ things they’re doing, their parties, their husbands love letter to them, their new pricey car, etc and yes, those people irk me. I stopped following them on SM ages ago, but those are the same ones who make announcements in other ways to ensure no one missed their latest brag. [/quote]

The families I spent time with as their children grew up - many of whom I coached, baby sat, took to museums or playgrounds... I care about those kids and their outcomes.  I spend time with people I like and I don't often like braggarts ... and if they take one moment to cross that line when their child gets reaches a goal or exceeds an expectation I'm THRILLED for them.  This is a milestone in most people's lives and it merits a bit of pride, even if overdone.  Do some people take it too far, I'm sure they do - there's always a Karen or Janice that takes things too far and we've all learned how to deal with them by now.  MY choice is to not give them my time.  It's pretty easy.[/quote]

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