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Anonymous wrote:I like following DC's school Instagram announcement page because I like to see where kids land, but I do not want constant updates from friends about their kids' application statuses, and I definitely do not want to know about scholarships, etc. Last year, we got actual printed college announcements with professional photos of the kids--essentially SM on crack. A big no thanks on the printed announcements aka brag bomb.

Again, it's the company you have chosen to keep. Let me guess: private school?

The printed announcements (coming from 3 separate families) were all from public school families.

No, they weren't. And there weren't 3. And I was right that your kids are in private school.

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Anonymous wrote:I am not impressed by any college my friends children got into. Most are wealthy. Maybe that’s not fair, but I know how much support/help these kids have. I appreciate the families are proud and that’s great, but there is no need to brag about the obvious privilege at play.

In contrast, I know a teacher whose dd got into Yale ED. I was happy and impressed to hear that news, although she didn’t tell me, our mutual friend shared the news.

This is how I feel. Maybe it’s mean but I can’t help it.

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Anonymous wrote:And no, your kid didn't get a scholarship because they are brilliant. It is because you can't afford full pay. I love the grandmas who brag that their grandchild got a scholarship to an Ivy. Awesome that junior got into an Ivy, but they didn't get a scholarship because they are more special than the other kids there.

You should go to anger management if this is what triggers you. Sad.

Anonymous wrote:I have a kid in the mix this year too, and I know we all care as parents but I don’t need blow by blow updates/brags.

Post it on social media if you must, tell grandma, but you don’t need to text every friend with a ‘big announcement’ that Larla is going to X school.

Flame away

Anonymous wrote:I have a kid in the mix this year too, and I know we all care as parents but I don’t need blow by blow updates/brags.

Post it on social media if you must, tell grandma, but you don’t need to text every friend with a ‘big announcement’ that Larla is going to X school.

Flame away

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Anonymous wrote:One mom I know never posted about her DC1’s schools. One set of photos from move-in day. For her DC2, she posted application updates (ED submitted! Fingers crossed!), the list of acceptances (This brainy girl!), and the final decision. DC1 went to a flagship, DC2 went to an Ivy. I really felt for her DC1.

Why are you stalking this mom to the point where you can recall what she's posting about each of her kids?

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Anonymous wrote:I love seeing them. This is so weird. I have two in college about to graduate and I still love seeing where kids land.

Why? Why do you care? Why do you think it matters at all? Especially if it's not your kid? I'm genuinely curious.

This is pretty sad. How can the idea of pleasure over your friends achievements be such a foreign concept?

DP.
Here’s the thing. Pleasure is great but you’re being dishonest if you don’t admit that there’s a huge element of narcissistic bragging at play for many parents, and I think that’s what irks some of us. As example, my friends son struggled in high school and when he got into college, I was overjoyed for him. Same with another friend’s dc who worked his butt off in high school, juggling academics and sports, and was recruited at a D1. Same for a friends son who got into Yale who she worried about socially as a kid. These are otherwise humble families. But in contrast, I know some people who have really taken to SM to brag about vacations, other ‘cool’ things they’re doing, their parties, their husbands love letter to them, their new pricey car, etc and yes, those people irk me. I stopped following them on SM ages ago, but those are the same ones who make announcements in other ways to ensure no one missed their latest brag.

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Anonymous wrote:I love seeing them. This is so weird. I have two in college about to graduate and I still love seeing where kids land.

Why? Why do you care? Why do you think it matters at all? Especially if it's not your kid? I'm genuinely curious.

This is pretty sad. How can the idea of pleasure over your friends achievements be such a foreign concept?

DP.
Here’s the thing. Pleasure is great but you’re being dishonest if you don’t admit that there’s a huge element of narcissistic bragging at play for many parents, and I think that’s what irks some of us. As example, my friends son struggled in high school and when he got into college, I was overjoyed for him. Same with another friend’s dc who worked his butt off in high school, juggling academics and sports, and was recruited at a D1. Same for a friends son who got into Yale who she worried about socially as a kid. These are otherwise humble families. But in contrast, I know some people who have really taken to SM to brag about vacations, other ‘cool’ things they’re doing, their parties, their husbands love letter to them, their new pricey car, etc and yes, those people irk me. I stopped following them on SM ages ago, but those are the same ones who make announcements in other ways to ensure no one missed their latest brag.

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Anonymous wrote:One mom I know never posted about her DC1’s schools. One set of photos from move-in day. For her DC2, she posted application updates (ED submitted! Fingers crossed!), the list of acceptances (This brainy girl!), and the final decision. DC1 went to a flagship, DC2 went to an Ivy. I really felt for her DC1.

Why are you stalking this mom to the point where you can recall what she's posting about each of her kids?

Dp. Assume these are *public* posts, no? That’s not what stalking means

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Anonymous wrote:One mom I know never posted about her DC1’s schools. One set of photos from move-in day. For her DC2, she posted application updates (ED submitted! Fingers crossed!), the list of acceptances (This brainy girl!), and the final decision. DC1 went to a flagship, DC2 went to an Ivy. I really felt for her DC1.

Why are you stalking this mom to the point where you can recall what she's posting about each of her kids?

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Anonymous wrote:It's jealousy. I feel it, too. But here's the thing. If someone posts a proud announcement about their kid going to some 80%+ acceptance rate school, I don't feel scornful. It's only the ones posting about the elite schools that make me annoyed. So I recognize that about myself. I grit my teeth and comment "Wow wow wow! How proud are you! Congratulations to the whole family!" And then I silence further notifications about the post.

Yikes. Really? My kid got in unhooked to an Ivy. He didn’t post on the school Instagram and I didn’t post on mine (very small set of followers anyways).

It’s disheartening that people take it that way. He did put a sticker on the car. It’s kind of crazy it’s ok for anyone in a school below T20 to do- but other kids are t supposed to show any school pride.

Stickers on the car is so pretentious.

Who cares?! Eat it. I see 100+ UVA, VT, JMU, CNU decals daily. How are those not pretentious. A kid can only have a decal if it’s below T20?

Decals on cars are great imo. I remember my had decals on EVERYTHING of my school (UVA back in the 90s). It wasn't my top choice; I didn't get into my top choice. I wasn't that thrilled to be going there initially (ended up loving it). Honestly I felt cheered by my dad displaying pride in my school on his car. 25+ years later he still wears UVA golf shirts, hats...and we live nowhere near VA anymore.

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Anonymous wrote:I love seeing them. This is so weird. I have two in college about to graduate and I still love seeing where kids land.

Why? Why do you care? Why do you think it matters at all? Especially if it's not your kid? I'm genuinely curious.

This is pretty sad. How can the idea of pleasure over your friends achievements be such a foreign concept?

DP.
Here’s the thing. Pleasure is great but you’re being dishonest if you don’t admit that there’s a huge element of narcissistic bragging at play for many parents, and I think that’s what irks some of us. As example, my friends son struggled in high school and when he got into college, I was overjoyed for him. Same with another friend’s dc who worked his butt off in high school, juggling academics and sports, and was recruited at a D1. Same for a friends son who got into Yale who she worried about socially as a kid. These are otherwise humble families. But in contrast, I know some people who have really taken to SM to brag about vacations, other ‘cool’ things they’re doing, their parties, their husbands love letter to them, their new pricey car, etc and yes, those people irk me. I stopped following them on SM ages ago, but those are the same ones who make announcements in other ways to ensure no one missed their latest brag.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a kid in the mix this year too, and I know we all care as parents but I don’t need blow by blow updates/brags.

Post it on social media if you must, tell grandma, but you don’t need to text every friend with a ‘big announcement’ that Larla is going to X school.

Flame away

And yet you care enough to post here to complain?

I love reading where kids I know are heading off to college. I had a great time in college, and I'm excited for them to have what I hope will be a great adventure, too. Agree that no need for a blow-by-blow accounts except for with my girlfriends (no need for public updates), but final announcements, yes, definitely.

Anonymous wrote:One mom I know never posted about her DC1’s schools. One set of photos from move-in day. For her DC2, she posted application updates (ED submitted! Fingers crossed!), the list of acceptances (This brainy girl!), and the final decision. DC1 went to a flagship, DC2 went to an Ivy. I really felt for her DC1.