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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are YOU ready to marry him and start a family immediately? Or will you always resent him if you don't take this opportunity? I bet deep down, you already know. This is a gut decision.

I don't think there's a right or wrong, just be true to yourself and where you are in your life right now. [/quote]

Marry - yes. Kids - not immediately but in the next 2-3 years. That’s our timeline that we discussed. We would start trying 1-2 years after being married.

I love him more than my job.[b] I just wish I had both and he wasn’t willing to end our relationship over this[/b]. I know my career will be okay but [b]I do worry my career will take a backseat to his once I have kids.[/b] [/quote]

You can't have it all. I don't care what anyone says. Having  him wait that long is not fair to him or you. What happens if a year and half in you meet some great guy where you moved and break up with him? You do need to choose. [/quote]

The red flag is that he is willing to break up over this. Yes, you can have it all.  Yes, you can change gears in your career as a woman, sometimes choosing career, sometimes choosing kids, sometimes choosing proximity.  The fact is that the man in this relationship is very inflexible.  [/quote]

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