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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP if you want to do all the cooking, fine, but then outsource more of the other stuff. Again, I don't get why you would pay for all the part time staff instead of focusing on finding one FT person to help you manage the house when that is obviously what you need. Your kids are really young and need constant supervision. You have high standards for cleanliness and food. Your husband is presumably a surgeon or some other high-demand physician and does not cook or clean. Do the math here.

A FT nanny could watch the kids while you prep dinner. She could clean while you spend time with the kids. She also serves as a FT backup if you get sick or run down. You need someone 8-5 or 9-6, daily, doing all the stuff you don't have time for or hate doing.

You also need to take the same approach of efficiency with your DH. He likes spending time with the kids but doesn't clean. Great. He can have quality time with them as they take baths and get ready for bed, and you can use that time to clean up so you don't have to do it after their bedtime. Then you both get to relax after the kids go to bed. And he gets 1:1 time with the kids which I'm guessing you already get more of.

You are getting push back here because you have lots of resources most of us don't have -- high HHI, ability to outsource, part-time work schedule -- but are acting like a martyr when this is just a logistical puzzle that requires some problem solving and discipline. Approach it like you'd approach a problem at work. At my work, if I was being run ragged with tasks while we employed multiple part time people who barely reduced my workload at all and my colleague sat around while I finished end of day tasks because, uh, he just doesn't like doing those particular tasks? I'd put together a plan and present to my bosses, to consolidate a couple if the part timers into one FT position to work asy assistant, second-in-command, and reallocate schedule so I wasn't always working late while my colleague wrapped up early.

This is your job -- figuring out how to make it work. Stop complaining and do it.[/quote]

+10000.[/quote]

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