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Anonymous wrote:The whole appeal of being dominated/taken roughly is the idea that you’re just so hot and irresistible that the man is just completely overcome with raw animal lust and cannot control himself around you. Thus having to spell this out for a partner kills the fantasy. At the same time, decent men - reasonably and correctly - are going to err on the side of NOT raping you, so it’s a no-win proposition for both parties.

The whole idea of wanting to be dominated is to experience relaxation before the act from feeling helpless and being spanked. Then I need slight pain, being tied up, disoriented in space to focus on my responses, and to get deeper pressure to O. It’s very physical to me and specific and it was always like that. I only had 5 partners in a lifetime because few men can do this to women usually they are hesitant

And that's what people are trying to tell you... that having such a very limited, fearful sexuality is not really anything to brag about and is pretty sad. If you actually worked on unleashing some genuine sexuality, not having to feel "overpowered" by some man in order to get yourself to feel an O, then you could experience a much wider, more open range of things. There's something so cringe about the pretense and fakeness of a man and a woman performing some fake scenario in which he pins her down, name calls her, etc, and it's all because she's too chickens**t to just own her sexuality and admit she's a sexual person. And everyone is playing some disingenuous role, likely something they did see scripted out in porn or some soap opera or read in a romance novel or something. My God, take the limits off your sexuality, be genuinely open and honest with your sexuality and see what happens. I bet your orgasms would improve tenfold and you wouldnt have issues having them anymore

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Anonymous wrote:Have you tried coaching him through improving your sex life? Is he open to that?

Some men have never received feedback and opportunity to become better lovers.

I have and sex isn’t that good. Vanilla sex is pretty good but I’m not a vanilla kind of girl sometimes. I prefer a little rough. He tries but he’s just not that guy. He seems timid to call me names or get rough.

Great guy, otherwise.

Genuine question but do you have a history of CSA or heavy porn usage? I find a lot of women that NEED choking or violence or lots of "kink" during sex developed their sex drives while watching porn, and are therefore always viewing themselves through a porn lense during sex. If they guy isnt throwing them around, spitting on them, etc, they dont feel the heat and passion. Whereas a lot of men who have genuine emotion and love for a woman dont want to hurt them... which makes perfect sense, logically.

A really "good in bed" person can adapt to different sexual styles, get off in different ways, and listen to their partner's preferences as well. It may not be that your partner is bad in bed, but that you are. And you might try laying off porn or unpacking when/how you developed these tendencies, and try to return your sexuality to a more honest, raw place, without the pretense of all the pornified behavior.

Sorry I’ve been MIA. I don’t know what CSA is. I don’t like choking or any kind of violence. That’s not rough sex to me. Rough sex is just some hard pounding, spanking, hair pulling, and being called names. I like feeling dominated. No porn issue or history of abuse.

How often do you watch porn?

Give it a rest. You’re an uptight prude if you think watching some porn equals abuse.

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Agree: there is someone on this part of DCUM who has a vendetta against porn.

It’s like are fetish for her; she tries to find some way to blame every single relationship issue on porn use.

There's more than one person calling out porn... in fact, there's a reason why the anti-porn movement is so popular with Gen Z... it's only sad boomers and Gen Xers that believe there's anything liberating about porn. It's a hugely exploitative industry that warps people's brains, as you can see from the OP who cant get off unless the guy is calling her the C-word. Absolutely tragic and embarrassing

The OP is probably militant in her claims that she is a “liberated” feminist without any awareness that in reality she is simply brainwashed by the patriarchy.

Exactly. I love these women that wanna act like theyre so alternative and transgressive by getting off on *checks notes* the most regressive patriarchal BS that echoes power dynamics that women have had to adhere to for, oh, just the past few thousand years. Yes, youre really pushing boundaries by having some guy slap you around and call you names... not like that doesnt happen every damn day to countless women and is just a larger echoing of the misogynistic framework every culture is centered around. It's all so very boring, outdated, and just uninteresting.

People who criticize BDSM here are solely focusing on the woman being degraded . They are missing the whole variety of role play and activities that could be super fun, and greatly improve sex life. Particular in longer marriages.
And there are men out there who also like to be degraded, walked on a leash and have her finger in his a.ss…., hits c..k being made fun of and called names

Sexuality is complex

Anonymous wrote:Just do anal

You are aware that it can’t be done that often safely for the woman, right ?

Just do anal

Anonymous wrote:The whole appeal of being dominated/taken roughly is the idea that you’re just so hot and irresistible that the man is just completely overcome with raw animal lust and cannot control himself around you. Thus having to spell this out for a partner kills the fantasy. At the same time, decent men - reasonably and correctly - are going to err on the side of NOT raping you, so it’s a no-win proposition for both parties.

The whole idea of wanting to be dominated is to experience relaxation before the act from feeling helpless and being spanked. Then I need slight pain, being tied up, disoriented in space to focus on my responses, and to get deeper pressure to O. It’s very physical to me and specific and it was always like that. I only had 5 partners in a lifetime because few men can do this to women usually they are hesitant

The whole appeal of being dominated/taken roughly is the idea that you’re just so hot and irresistible that the man is just completely overcome with raw animal lust and cannot control himself around you. Thus having to spell this out for a partner kills the fantasy. At the same time, decent men - reasonably and correctly - are going to err on the side of NOT raping you, so it’s a no-win proposition for both parties.

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Anonymous wrote:Have you tried coaching him through improving your sex life? Is he open to that?

Some men have never received feedback and opportunity to become better lovers.

I have and sex isn’t that good. Vanilla sex is pretty good but I’m not a vanilla kind of girl sometimes. I prefer a little rough. He tries but he’s just not that guy. He seems timid to call me names or get rough.

Great guy, otherwise.

Genuine question but do you have a history of CSA or heavy porn usage? I find a lot of women that NEED choking or violence or lots of "kink" during sex developed their sex drives while watching porn, and are therefore always viewing themselves through a porn lense during sex. If they guy isnt throwing them around, spitting on them, etc, they dont feel the heat and passion. Whereas a lot of men who have genuine emotion and love for a woman dont want to hurt them... which makes perfect sense, logically.

A really "good in bed" person can adapt to different sexual styles, get off in different ways, and listen to their partner's preferences as well. It may not be that your partner is bad in bed, but that you are. And you might try laying off porn or unpacking when/how you developed these tendencies, and try to return your sexuality to a more honest, raw place, without the pretense of all the pornified behavior.

Sorry I’ve been MIA. I don’t know what CSA is. I don’t like choking or any kind of violence. That’s not rough sex to me. Rough sex is just some hard pounding, spanking, hair pulling, and being called names. I like feeling dominated. No porn issue or history of abuse.

How often do you watch porn?

Give it a rest. You’re an uptight prude if you think watching some porn equals abuse.

NP.

Agree: there is someone on this part of DCUM who has a vendetta against porn.

It’s like are fetish for her; she tries to find some way to blame every single relationship issue on porn use.

There's more than one person calling out porn... in fact, there's a reason why the anti-porn movement is so popular with Gen Z... it's only sad boomers and Gen Xers that believe there's anything liberating about porn. It's a hugely exploitative industry that warps people's brains, as you can see from the OP who cant get off unless the guy is calling her the C-word. Absolutely tragic and embarrassing

The OP is probably militant in her claims that she is a “liberated” feminist without any awareness that in reality she is simply brainwashed by the patriarchy.

Not OP but I am similar and consulted with medical specialists regarding my need to be degraded and experience pain to O.
I was told it’s how I was born. In fact I experienced my first O when I accidentally hurt myself…. And didn’t even realize what happened. There was a state TV with approved list of programs back then in my country of origin. No access to porn whatsoever or even sexual literature.

Experienced it first as a teen- long before I became sexually active

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Anonymous wrote:Have you tried coaching him through improving your sex life? Is he open to that?

Some men have never received feedback and opportunity to become better lovers.

I have and sex isn’t that good. Vanilla sex is pretty good but I’m not a vanilla kind of girl sometimes. I prefer a little rough. He tries but he’s just not that guy. He seems timid to call me names or get rough.

Great guy, otherwise.

Genuine question but do you have a history of CSA or heavy porn usage? I find a lot of women that NEED choking or violence or lots of "kink" during sex developed their sex drives while watching porn, and are therefore always viewing themselves through a porn lense during sex. If they guy isnt throwing them around, spitting on them, etc, they dont feel the heat and passion. Whereas a lot of men who have genuine emotion and love for a woman dont want to hurt them... which makes perfect sense, logically.

A really "good in bed" person can adapt to different sexual styles, get off in different ways, and listen to their partner's preferences as well. It may not be that your partner is bad in bed, but that you are. And you might try laying off porn or unpacking when/how you developed these tendencies, and try to return your sexuality to a more honest, raw place, without the pretense of all the pornified behavior.

Sorry I’ve been MIA. I don’t know what CSA is. I don’t like choking or any kind of violence. That’s not rough sex to me. Rough sex is just some hard pounding, spanking, hair pulling, and being called names. I like feeling dominated. No porn issue or history of abuse.

How often do you watch porn?

Give it a rest. You’re an uptight prude if you think watching some porn equals abuse.

NP.

Agree: there is someone on this part of DCUM who has a vendetta against porn.

It’s like are fetish for her; she tries to find some way to blame every single relationship issue on porn use.

There's more than one person calling out porn... in fact, there's a reason why the anti-porn movement is so popular with Gen Z... it's only sad boomers and Gen Xers that believe there's anything liberating about porn. It's a hugely exploitative industry that warps people's brains, as you can see from the OP who cant get off unless the guy is calling her the C-word. Absolutely tragic and embarrassing

The OP is probably militant in her claims that she is a “liberated” feminist without any awareness that in reality she is simply brainwashed by the patriarchy.

Not OP but I am similar and consulted with medical specialists regarding my need to be degraded and experience pain to O.
I was told it’s how I was born. In fact I experienced my first O when I accidentally hurt myself…. And didn’t even realize what happened. There was a state TV with approved list of programs back then in my country of origin. No access to porn whatsoever or even sexual literature.

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Anonymous wrote:Have you tried coaching him through improving your sex life? Is he open to that?

Some men have never received feedback and opportunity to become better lovers.

I have and sex isn’t that good. Vanilla sex is pretty good but I’m not a vanilla kind of girl sometimes. I prefer a little rough. He tries but he’s just not that guy. He seems timid to call me names or get rough.

Great guy, otherwise.

Genuine question but do you have a history of CSA or heavy porn usage? I find a lot of women that NEED choking or violence or lots of "kink" during sex developed their sex drives while watching porn, and are therefore always viewing themselves through a porn lense during sex. If they guy isnt throwing them around, spitting on them, etc, they dont feel the heat and passion. Whereas a lot of men who have genuine emotion and love for a woman dont want to hurt them... which makes perfect sense, logically.

A really "good in bed" person can adapt to different sexual styles, get off in different ways, and listen to their partner's preferences as well. It may not be that your partner is bad in bed, but that you are. And you might try laying off porn or unpacking when/how you developed these tendencies, and try to return your sexuality to a more honest, raw place, without the pretense of all the pornified behavior.

Sorry I’ve been MIA. I don’t know what CSA is. I don’t like choking or any kind of violence. That’s not rough sex to me. Rough sex is just some hard pounding, spanking, hair pulling, and being called names. I like feeling dominated. No porn issue or history of abuse.

How often do you watch porn?

Give it a rest. You’re an uptight prude if you think watching some porn equals abuse.

NP.

Agree: there is someone on this part of DCUM who has a vendetta against porn.

It’s like are fetish for her; she tries to find some way to blame every single relationship issue on porn use.

There's more than one person calling out porn... in fact, there's a reason why the anti-porn movement is so popular with Gen Z... it's only sad boomers and Gen Xers that believe there's anything liberating about porn. It's a hugely exploitative industry that warps people's brains, as you can see from the OP who cant get off unless the guy is calling her the C-word. Absolutely tragic and embarrassing

The OP is probably militant in her claims that she is a “liberated” feminist without any awareness that in reality she is simply brainwashed by the patriarchy.

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Anonymous wrote:Have you tried coaching him through improving your sex life? Is he open to that?

Some men have never received feedback and opportunity to become better lovers.

I have and sex isn’t that good. Vanilla sex is pretty good but I’m not a vanilla kind of girl sometimes. I prefer a little rough. He tries but he’s just not that guy. He seems timid to call me names or get rough.

Great guy, otherwise.

Genuine question but do you have a history of CSA or heavy porn usage? I find a lot of women that NEED choking or violence or lots of "kink" during sex developed their sex drives while watching porn, and are therefore always viewing themselves through a porn lense during sex. If they guy isnt throwing them around, spitting on them, etc, they dont feel the heat and passion. Whereas a lot of men who have genuine emotion and love for a woman dont want to hurt them... which makes perfect sense, logically.

A really "good in bed" person can adapt to different sexual styles, get off in different ways, and listen to their partner's preferences as well. It may not be that your partner is bad in bed, but that you are. And you might try laying off porn or unpacking when/how you developed these tendencies, and try to return your sexuality to a more honest, raw place, without the pretense of all the pornified behavior.

Sorry I’ve been MIA. I don’t know what CSA is. I don’t like choking or any kind of violence. That’s not rough sex to me. Rough sex is just some hard pounding, spanking, hair pulling, and being called names. I like feeling dominated. No porn issue or history of abuse.

How often do you watch porn?

Almost never. I don’t want hardcore porn . I’ve always liked this sex. Never been abused or watch violent porn. I just live the primal feeling of being taken and dominated. No slapping, choking, violent verbal talk, no degrading, and no abuse. I like a good rough pounding, light spanking, light hair pulling, and being called a sl*t.

You don’t get to judge what others like or prefer. You seem pretty high of yourself. You also can’t play some online psychologist and think you can diagnose someone because they have watched porn. People like you are is exhausting and annoying.

Everyone is judging you OP.

No, we are judging you for shaming a normal confident woman. Sit down, pay attention and learn.

A normal confident woman doesn’t like to have someone hurt them during sex and be called demeaning names.

I am a confident woman and I don’t view spanking as hurting me because it turns me on. And I like being called a slut by a man I trust and love because you would never imagine that I have that side to myself if you meet me in real like. Think of a nerdy librarian.

Of course, nerds and awkward weirdos love BDSM.

Yeah. It's the same type of crowd that loves to brag about being in polyamorous relationships. Most of them have blue hair and weigh around 300 pounds. But they consider themselves edgy/cool because they jerk off to hentai. Society's unwanted cast offs

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Anonymous wrote:Have you tried coaching him through improving your sex life? Is he open to that?

Some men have never received feedback and opportunity to become better lovers.

I have and sex isn’t that good. Vanilla sex is pretty good but I’m not a vanilla kind of girl sometimes. I prefer a little rough. He tries but he’s just not that guy. He seems timid to call me names or get rough.

Great guy, otherwise.

Genuine question but do you have a history of CSA or heavy porn usage? I find a lot of women that NEED choking or violence or lots of "kink" during sex developed their sex drives while watching porn, and are therefore always viewing themselves through a porn lense during sex. If they guy isnt throwing them around, spitting on them, etc, they dont feel the heat and passion. Whereas a lot of men who have genuine emotion and love for a woman dont want to hurt them... which makes perfect sense, logically.

A really "good in bed" person can adapt to different sexual styles, get off in different ways, and listen to their partner's preferences as well. It may not be that your partner is bad in bed, but that you are. And you might try laying off porn or unpacking when/how you developed these tendencies, and try to return your sexuality to a more honest, raw place, without the pretense of all the pornified behavior.

Sorry I’ve been MIA. I don’t know what CSA is. I don’t like choking or any kind of violence. That’s not rough sex to me. Rough sex is just some hard pounding, spanking, hair pulling, and being called names. I like feeling dominated. No porn issue or history of abuse.

How often do you watch porn?

Give it a rest. You’re an uptight prude if you think watching some porn equals abuse.

NP.

Agree: there is someone on this part of DCUM who has a vendetta against porn.

It’s like are fetish for her; she tries to find some way to blame every single relationship issue on porn use.

There's more than one person calling out porn... in fact, there's a reason why the anti-porn movement is so popular with Gen Z... it's only sad boomers and Gen Xers that believe there's anything liberating about porn. It's a hugely exploitative industry that warps people's brains, as you can see from the OP who cant get off unless the guy is calling her the C-word. Absolutely tragic and embarrassing

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Anonymous wrote:Have you tried coaching him through improving your sex life? Is he open to that?

Some men have never received feedback and opportunity to become better lovers.

I have and sex isn’t that good. Vanilla sex is pretty good but I’m not a vanilla kind of girl sometimes. I prefer a little rough. He tries but he’s just not that guy. He seems timid to call me names or get rough.

Great guy, otherwise.

Genuine question but do you have a history of CSA or heavy porn usage? I find a lot of women that NEED choking or violence or lots of "kink" during sex developed their sex drives while watching porn, and are therefore always viewing themselves through a porn lense during sex. If they guy isnt throwing them around, spitting on them, etc, they dont feel the heat and passion. Whereas a lot of men who have genuine emotion and love for a woman dont want to hurt them... which makes perfect sense, logically.

A really "good in bed" person can adapt to different sexual styles, get off in different ways, and listen to their partner's preferences as well. It may not be that your partner is bad in bed, but that you are. And you might try laying off porn or unpacking when/how you developed these tendencies, and try to return your sexuality to a more honest, raw place, without the pretense of all the pornified behavior.

Sorry I’ve been MIA. I don’t know what CSA is. I don’t like choking or any kind of violence. That’s not rough sex to me. Rough sex is just some hard pounding, spanking, hair pulling, and being called names. I like feeling dominated. No porn issue or history of abuse.

How often do you watch porn?

Almost never. I don’t want hardcore porn . I’ve always liked this sex. Never been abused or watch violent porn. I just live the primal feeling of being taken and dominated. No slapping, choking, violent verbal talk, no degrading, and no abuse. I like a good rough pounding, light spanking, light hair pulling, and being called a sl*t.

You don’t get to judge what others like or prefer. You seem pretty high of yourself. You also can’t play some online psychologist and think you can diagnose someone because they have watched porn. People like you are is exhausting and annoying.

I actually do get to judge- in fact anyone can judge your lackluster, very boring sounding sex life that you need to add name calling to in order to get wet. You seem like you can barely string a coherent sentence together- are you drunk?

+1000

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Anonymous wrote:Have you tried coaching him through improving your sex life? Is he open to that?

Some men have never received feedback and opportunity to become better lovers.

I have and sex isn’t that good. Vanilla sex is pretty good but I’m not a vanilla kind of girl sometimes. I prefer a little rough. He tries but he’s just not that guy. He seems timid to call me names or get rough.

Great guy, otherwise.

Genuine question but do you have a history of CSA or heavy porn usage? I find a lot of women that NEED choking or violence or lots of "kink" during sex developed their sex drives while watching porn, and are therefore always viewing themselves through a porn lense during sex. If they guy isnt throwing them around, spitting on them, etc, they dont feel the heat and passion. Whereas a lot of men who have genuine emotion and love for a woman dont want to hurt them... which makes perfect sense, logically.

A really "good in bed" person can adapt to different sexual styles, get off in different ways, and listen to their partner's preferences as well. It may not be that your partner is bad in bed, but that you are. And you might try laying off porn or unpacking when/how you developed these tendencies, and try to return your sexuality to a more honest, raw place, without the pretense of all the pornified behavior.

Sorry I’ve been MIA. I don’t know what CSA is. I don’t like choking or any kind of violence. That’s not rough sex to me. Rough sex is just some hard pounding, spanking, hair pulling, and being called names. I like feeling dominated. No porn issue or history of abuse.

How often do you watch porn?

Almost never. I don’t want hardcore porn . I’ve always liked this sex. Never been abused or watch violent porn. I just live the primal feeling of being taken and dominated. No slapping, choking, violent verbal talk, no degrading, and no abuse. I like a good rough pounding, light spanking, light hair pulling, and being called a sl*t.

You don’t get to judge what others like or prefer. You seem pretty high of yourself. You also can’t play some online psychologist and think you can diagnose someone because they have watched porn. People like you are is exhausting and annoying.

Everyone is judging you OP.

You don’t think being called a s*ut is degrading? Wow.

It's only degrading if you find the word offensive. Some woman own their slutiness. Some woman also like to drift into a different persona/role during sex.Nothing wrong with either of those. I have a demanding job, I oversee several hundred people and several facilities. I do nothing but make decisions and solve problems all day, every day. Being able to hand myself over to my husband, and go to the opposite end of the specturm by being completely degraded is very freeing. It doesn't mean I feel less loved or less of myself. And it doesn't mean my husband thinks less of me
or loves me less.

Yeah it’s certainly very normal to be called a s*ut by someone who loves you.

He call me c*nt also because that turns ME on. And no doubt that he loves me. If it’s not for you that is fine. But you don’t have the right to try and shame someone for their sexual preferences.

That is not how rights work. But also OP doesn’t have the “right” to try and convince a man that he should want the same type of rough sex she does just because that’s what SHE wants.

Ignore the "right" parts then, and acknowledge your moral compass is broken. And OP isn't trying to convince him. Her post didn't involve anything related to convince him or even encouraging him. She asked if she should accept/compromise or move on. That doesn't inolve asking anything of him.

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Anonymous wrote:Have you tried coaching him through improving your sex life? Is he open to that?

Some men have never received feedback and opportunity to become better lovers.

I have and sex isn’t that good. Vanilla sex is pretty good but I’m not a vanilla kind of girl sometimes. I prefer a little rough. He tries but he’s just not that guy. He seems timid to call me names or get rough.

Great guy, otherwise.

Genuine question but do you have a history of CSA or heavy porn usage? I find a lot of women that NEED choking or violence or lots of "kink" during sex developed their sex drives while watching porn, and are therefore always viewing themselves through a porn lense during sex. If they guy isnt throwing them around, spitting on them, etc, they dont feel the heat and passion. Whereas a lot of men who have genuine emotion and love for a woman dont want to hurt them... which makes perfect sense, logically.

A really "good in bed" person can adapt to different sexual styles, get off in different ways, and listen to their partner's preferences as well. It may not be that your partner is bad in bed, but that you are. And you might try laying off porn or unpacking when/how you developed these tendencies, and try to return your sexuality to a more honest, raw place, without the pretense of all the pornified behavior.

Sorry I’ve been MIA. I don’t know what CSA is. I don’t like choking or any kind of violence. That’s not rough sex to me. Rough sex is just some hard pounding, spanking, hair pulling, and being called names. I like feeling dominated. No porn issue or history of abuse.

How often do you watch porn?

Almost never. I don’t want hardcore porn . I’ve always liked this sex. Never been abused or watch violent porn. I just live the primal feeling of being taken and dominated. No slapping, choking, violent verbal talk, no degrading, and no abuse. I like a good rough pounding, light spanking, light hair pulling, and being called a sl*t.

You don’t get to judge what others like or prefer. You seem pretty high of yourself. You also can’t play some online psychologist and think you can diagnose someone because they have watched porn. People like you are is exhausting and annoying.

Everyone is judging you OP.

You don’t think being called a s*ut is degrading? Wow.

It's only degrading if you find the word offensive. Some woman own their slutiness. Some woman also like to drift into a different persona/role during sex.Nothing wrong with either of those. I have a demanding job, I oversee several hundred people and several facilities. I do nothing but make decisions and solve problems all day, every day. Being able to hand myself over to my husband, and go to the opposite end of the specturm by being completely degraded is very freeing. It doesn't mean I feel less loved or less of myself. And it doesn't mean my husband thinks less of me
or loves me less.

Yeah it’s certainly very normal to be called a s*ut by someone who loves you.

He call me c*nt also because that turns ME on. And no doubt that he loves me. If it’s not for you that is fine. But you don’t have the right to try and shame someone for their sexual preferences.

That is not how rights work. But also OP doesn’t have the “right” to try and convince a man that he should want the same type of rough sex she does just because that’s what SHE wants.