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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not everything needs to be taken personally as though it was meant to offend you. [/quote]

Except it's close family and we've brought it up with them a couple of times in years past already because I do not like it. I don't think it's MEANT to offend me. And I'm not offended. I'm irritated.

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But if that were true you would t feel it necessary to blast a PSA to a random message board. You’d just address it (again) with your family and not assume that your personal stance in deciding to take offense at a standard etiquette practice is shared by all. It isn’t. You just happen to be offended by this and your own relatives won’t listen to your preferences so you are venting on DCUM as though this is a universal issue.[/quote]

There is no point in addressing it again with them because we've addressed it multiple times and today the card addressed to Mr and Mrs husband's first name arrived again like clockwork. I don't have endless tolerance, or endless hope, and I also don't have any reason to believe that this is the time - it really really is! - they'll just update the stupid spreadsheet.

So I'm venting here. Not "blasting" anyone - what an overblown word! - just venting a little bit. And also perhaps asking people to consider whether they are addressing people in the way that people want to be addressed - and if not, why they persist in this stupid habit of erasing women's identity like this. It's one little thing, and it's annoying. [/quote]

Some people like tradition.  And yes, it's one little thing... open the envelope, look at the card and be glad that someone took the time to remember your family.

People who like tradition feel the same way about people who want to destroy all traditions.  You chip and chip and chip away at social norms.  It gets old and finally, we end up with people who feel it is "emotional labor" to engage with family members, who refuse to host, who refuse to cook a holiday meal, etc. because they feel it is oppression.  Everyone ends up worse off, even the harpy.[/quote]

No. [/quote]

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