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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Interesting that no one has focused on OPS language: “I couldn’t have been clearer and he agreed.”  Note that she doesn’t say “and he said he wanted them too.“

Not so sure he “changed his mind.”  [/quote]

Who gives a shit? She’s 31 and can still have kids elsewhere!!! Run OP!![/quote]

I am not saying she should or shouldn’t. What I am saying is that it’s not necessarily fair to blame the guy. It sounds like OP went into the marriage with a lot of wishful thinking.[/quote]

Who cares about blame. She is on the tail end of fertility and he is playing games and wasting her time.[/quote]

But because she's on the tail end of fertility, she needs to accept the real possibility that she won't have a child if she leaves him either.[/quote]
Huh? 31 is not the tail end of fertility. She has plenty of time, and suggesting she stay and actively have children with someone who specifically said they didn't want them is NOT a good plan.[/quote]

1 year divorce, 3 years to find someone, 1 year to get married, 2 years of marriage before having kids.

That's 37 years. Kids at 38 years old is how you end up with kids with ASD or Downs.[/quote]
You are an idiot.[/quote]

+1. That poster might be 60+. I am 47. Many people I know had their first kids 40-42. All the kids are fine. I had an accident baby from sex one time at 34 and then again at 37 (yes, I was married...). People have kids all the time at 38-44 and not problems people assume. Ridiculous.[/quote]

Your anecdote does not change the data about the increased risks of having kids at advanced maternal age. [/quote]

It is not an anecdote. Maybe you should start reading. The fertility cliff at 35 is a myth. Numerous articles have been written about it. Most new moms here are mid to late 30s.

https://rightasrain.uwmedicine.org/well/health/fertility-myths-debunked
https://slate.com/technology/2020/08/fertility-cliff-advanced-maternal-age-outdated.html
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2021/apr/10/fertility-cliff-age-35-week-in-patriarchy
https://www.womenshealthmag.com/uk/collective/long-reads/a44642061/does-your-fertility-really-fall-off-a-cliff-when-you-hit-35/

there are literally hundreds of articles about this.
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And the number of children with special needs is skyrocketing.[/quote]

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