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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m the poster that catches OP every time and shares the link to her previous threads. She probably sees me as a terrible person for outing her and calling her out. I want to share why this is so important to me.

You deserve peace, OP. There are so many situations that people on this earth find themselves in that are so incredibly painful and the idea of finding a sane way out of them seems nearly impossible. This is not one of those situations. I posted on your threads months ago that your therapist will not be so blunt as I am, or the other ladies posting here. Your husband is not redeemable, not with what he’s done. Deep down you know this. He didn’t make a really bad decision one night in the heat of the moment but rather cold, calculating and frankly chilling decisions day after day. Calling you what he called you was just that, it’s chilling. There’s no other word for it.

I don’t know why you hold on. Perhaps it’s the retirement accounts, fear of the unknown, whatever. But I guarantee you there is peace in your new tiny house and garden and community where you don’t need to worry about whatever bauble this horrible woman is wearing around her neck and what it might mean for your marriage and stability in life. I really wish you freedom from this toxicity and peace on the other side. [/quote]

Op here.  I respect your coming on and elaborating.  It is helpful to get outside views it’s not about attention but rather I’m very up and down and hard to know what’s real and what isn’t what’s right to do or is foolish.  I’m a kind, forgiving person , perhaps too much so.  I have appreciated being able to share but I can see how it’s been misconstrued or I guess annoying.  I don’t wish this on anyone I have learned that my responses and the up and down nature of “recovery” or deciding what to do is not unusual they say it’s a 2-5 year process for most people. Just thought you may try to understand that.  Finances don’t keep me in my marriage  I’m thankfully able to make decisions without that as a factor.  But I’ll sign off . Thank you for your input and advice. [/quote]

Stalking your husband's ex or current AP is never the right thing to do. So there's that. [/quote]

The right thing for whom? Pretty sure the AP isn’t really in any position to assert what “the right thing” is or isn’t [/quote]

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