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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Let's be honest: Same race, different race, same ethnicity, different ethnicity, same religion, different religion..,doesn't matter.

Every relationship is going to have issues.[/quote]
+1 I'm pretty sure that this is an issue for a lot of couples, irrespective of race.  Just look at this forum.

This is a marital dynamic issue, not a race issue.

I'm in a biracial marriage: I'm Asian;  he's white.  I do not play the trad wife.  DH does most of the cooking and grocery shopping, but I do clean, which I don't mind as much.[/quote]

No. There are some cultures where the men won’t do anything. They won’t change diapers, cook or clean. Nada. That’s not typical for the average white guy. White men aren’t perfect but they generally do SOMETHING. South Asian men, African and middle eastern are known not to do much.

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You are correct. I am from Togo in west Africa and what you described is exactly the type of household I grew up in. [b]I am 44 and I think a major shifted started with women born in the 1980s. In my marriage to a fellow Togolese women I do not enjoy the same perks my dad it[/b]; however, I still get away with far more than most American men. [b]But my advice to any dad is be involved you will be much closer to your kids. I am much closer to my kids and my dad can't say the same. I attribute this to me being involved and being an equal partner as much as I can to my wife.[/b] And my wife within our community always brag about how different I am and how grateful she is. Think about your kids dads forget about the perks your dads had.[/quote]

Women born in the 1980s and beyond were raised with the expectation that they would also have to work to provide for their families. Capitalism cannot have it both ways. If the women have to work outside of the home to help support their families, someone has to pick up the slack that they cannot do at home. Sorry men, you've been riding the patriarchy far too long and the gravy train has ended. You want the benefit of having a wife who works, which is a doubled HHI, more money in retirement/savings, a bigger and better house, then you need to be prepared to support the family around the house more than your dads did. The problem is that today's men seem to think that their wives should keep carrying the housework and family management load while working full time.

The enlightened ones realize that they have to share in the management of the household and the perk is a better relationship with their kids. [/quote]

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