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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m very confused about why being married makes it impossible to go to graduate school or have a good job? I found it much easier to achieve things in life with a spouse as support.[/quote]

It’s not impossible, but usually you are going to a new geography for grad school so you need your SO to be OK with that, even if there aren’t great career options.

I personally was moved to 4 different locations for a career before 30…married at 28 in the 4th location, but would have been much harder to just accept a promotion and move with a spouse if married at 22.[/quote]

It all depends.  Got married after undergrad.  Went to grad school, away from spouse (7 hour drive, we met almost every weekend in the midpoint for 36 hours).  We worked for same company/same discipline.  3 years after I started work (1 year after I returned from my masters), spouse got job at a new company (and halfway across country).  Before spouse took the offer told company I needed a job as well. 2 days later I was "interviewing" and basically it was 3 positions, and I was picking which department I wanted to work for (company really wanted my spouse to come).  
So we both got raises/promotions out of it.  
Sure it's not always that easy, but plenty of couples do it even in their 20s.

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Sounds like that was one move…not 4.

Are you saying you would expect your spouse to get you a new job with each move?[/quote]

As a couple, we make joint decisions about life, that includes jobs.  For us it was only one move,.  The next move waited until I had birthed our first child, as I was becoming a SAHP and didn't want to switch jobs right before we would have a kid.  So we decided to wait and spouse worked remotely for a company (before that was a big thing) and travelled as needed. So yes, once you are married, you make choices that work for everyone.  If both don't agree, you don't move.  It's part of being married---you think about what matters to your family, not just yourself.  [b]Otherwise, if you aren't up to that and compromise, you shouldn't be getting married[/b]
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You are proving PP's point.  PP moved 4 times for different job opportunities so was not in a position to be married young and therefore didn't marry young.

So, not sure why you commented on the prior post that in fact you can get married and job hop...just to correct yourself and agree that if you are in a career where you may be moved around the country (or maybe internationally) for advancement, then maybe it's the not the best idea to get married young.[/quote]

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