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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m going to a wedding later this summer and on the wedding website was asked that in lieu of a gift, the couple would like guests to contribute funds for their honeymoon/so they can make improvements to their house.  Keep in mind the couple is in their thirties and both work full-time.  I find this incredibly, incredibly tacky and tasteless.[/quote]

Well, we did this. I guess I find the whole wedding and general gifting culture gross and I would have rather done something with the actual home I live in rather than get some vases that would never be used. I buy many of my things secondhand which I’m sure is considered gauche by you but ultimately I care more about my contribution to making my wedding hoopla as sustainable as I could.[/quote]

I’m PP you’re responding to, and I understand the utility and universality of cash, but still find the actual asking a bit tacky.  Did you have a page on your wedding website that explicit asked for money, or was it implied (eg no registry?).  I think it’s the asking that bothers me.  Most people give cash/a check anyway.[/quote]

[b]We said “no boxed gifts.” [/b]We did end up with about 25% of our guests that gave nothing which was a bit annoying at the time (since we were plenty generous for their weddings) but understood we didn’t have a registry. I did google a former friend and saw she had a Venmo listed which I thought was pretty bold. [/quote]

So tacky.  No manners.[/quote]

Yes you are tacky, not to mention ignorant and culturally insensitive. "No Boxed Gifts" is THE most common way of asking for cash in Asian and South Asian cultures. People can interpret it however they want - give cash, don't give a gift at all. Just don't bring something in a box that takes up space. White people and their registries, geez!!![/quote]

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