Reply to The End of Feminism? Young Men Prefer Traditional Gender Roles

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to " The End of Feminism? Young Men Prefer Traditional Gender Roles"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No, they're just going to find out no one wants to date or marry them with those attitudes.[/quote]

There are many many young women who want a guy who makes all the money and they can stay home. That is also pretty common now. Income and will pay for everything is very high on most young women’s lists.[/quote]

Have you ever noticed that a lot of the guys who want a SAHM traditional partner are the same guys who will never crack 65k/year? [/quote]

I think there are two different camps in this whole discussion.

There are those men that want a stay at home because they feel that is where a woman belongs and they are lazy and want everything done for them and have that traditional view regardless of income.  And want the security of knowing the woman is 100% reliant on them.

Then there are men who want a SAH because that is what works best for the family as whole.  It allows them to pursue or stay in a higher earning  career.  They have some that can hold down the fort and not worry about juggling schedules when they have an extra long work day.  They realize the ease of logistics, especially when planning vacations.  The wife has more flexibility and security because of  a better financial situation.  I will the latter is more common in the DC area.[/quote]

My husband is in this second camp.  What drove me crazy for years was that he wouldn’t or couldn’t just come out and say it.  He would always say that it was my decision to work or not, and he supported whatever I wanted to do.  But his support was lip service only.  He was never home to take kids to daycare and couldn’t be relied on to pick them up.  He would be home for dinner, but not home to cook, and he would often log back in to finish notes or work on lectures afterward.  I couldn’t realistically travel, come in early, or stay late without getting childcare or having my mom come to stay.  
I got burnt out.  Our house wasn’t a pleasant place to be.  I really think that he thought “supporting” me working meant not actively discouraging it.  [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics