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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it is an insult to men to claim they will all cheat if given the opportunity.

And "all men are hard-wired for sex."  So?  Men are incapable of rising about their base animal instincts?  Not true.  People who have character and integrity don't cheat.[/quote]

Thank you.  Yes, at first I was mildly insulted that the overwhelming opinion is that the ONLY reason I don't cheat is that I don't have the opportunity to do so.  Then I remembered that none of the women spouting off this nonsense know me, so there's no point being insulted.  Plus, this most likely stems from some combination of (i) insecurity on their own relationships; (ii) gender one-upsmanship -  we're better than you because WE don't act like this (though no one has explained just why this apparent phenomenon applies to men and not to women - are you just much more virtuous?  moral?  disciplined? what is it?); and  (iii) rationalization - if your husband has cheated on you (or if you think he might), it's a lot easier to pass it off as some evolutionary hard-wired predilection common to all men than to accept that you chose a mate who is flawed.

I am not perfect, by any stretch of the imagination, and I make no claims to having a perfect marriage.  But I have to much respect for my wife, my kids, my committments, and myself to cheat on her.  I'm not religious. but I believe in keeping my promises.  If you all can't say that about your husbands, or yourselves, well, that sucks, and I'm sorry.  But it's ridiculous to extrapolate that because your husbands have cheated, all men will.  I get that's it's copmforting, but it's still ridiculous.  [/quote]

Exactly.  My DH is a tremendous catch - successful, athletic, good-looking.  Clearly the man has options.  We have talked about this idea that all men cheat, and he finds that offensive.  It is a slam on his character to allege that he cannot resist sex.  We are happily married, and we have small children.  He wants them to grow up in an intact family, and he wants us to grow old together.  He has said that he is always focused on that goal.  He is not going to trade his and his family's long-term happiness for an orgasm.  There are a lot more men like him out there than people think.
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