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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I didn’t mean how I’m doing in a literal sense. Mainly that my mother doesn’t inquire anything about me personally. We could talk every day and she’s know nothing about me because the conversation is always redirected if I offer any info about my life. [/quote]

My FIL was like this. He called every Sunday night and talked and talked about himself, my MIL, my SIL, then said "How ya doin', good?" and moved on before I could say anything. He didn't want to talk to DH, just to me to tell me all about himself and other people, some of whom I'd never met. After a while I stopped answering the phone or calling him back. He's since passed away, and I don't think he ever knew or cared to know anything real about me, which made me sad. I know he loved my DH, and maybe even me, but his manner of "communication" was very strange and distant. Sometimes I, like you, tried to tell him about something going on with my job or the kids, and he'd listen, then immediately change the subject without responding to what I said. I might have been talking to myself alone in a room. [/quote]
At least you got a “how ya doin”—even if it was a statement, not a question. 
Because that means he noticed there is a “you.” I don’t recall my parents or ILs ever saying this token phrase to me: I just listen as they talk on and on about thrmselves.[/quote]

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