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Anonymous wrote:So irritating! I love my husband, but seriously, everything is always a production. We recently went to see a light show, and it was past dinner time, so I’m putting in a Chick-fil-A order for pickup on my phone (birthday kid’s request, and we knew this was their pick before we left the house). “Wellllll, I don’t knowwwwww, I need to look at the menu.” It’s Chick-fil-A. You get a sandwich, nuggets or a salad, pretty much. “Read me the mennnuuuuuu” and then proceeds to get a regular sandwich, like he always does.

His parents are the same way. I can’t just throw out an idea, every detail has to be picked over. “Do you want to see a kids’ movie today? The girls want to go see ‘Migration.’” Well what’s it about, blah blah blah…it’s a kid movie. About ducks. “Well let me read about it, gee, I don’t know.” It is a kid movie. I’m paying. In or out. “Well what are the times.” Well, 11:30, 2, 3:40. “WELLLLLLL, I don’t KNOWWWWWW…” You have nothing else to do today. You are parked on my sofa. In or out.

I just can’t stand how some adults don’t get that not everything is a production, not every single meal is super important, not every single activity is super important, it’s about the big picture and the flow of the day. Just go along to get along, sometimes! In or out!

Pick up through the drive through at Chic fil a - tell him you put the mobile order in and he can see the menu when you get there and he can order

Movie tickets - order yours and send him the details, let him know you will be there and if he wants to go he can buy a ticket at the theater

Anonymous wrote:So irritating! I love my husband, but seriously, everything is always a production. We recently went to see a light show, and it was past dinner time, so I’m putting in a Chick-fil-A order for pickup on my phone (birthday kid’s request, and we knew this was their pick before we left the house). “Wellllll, I don’t knowwwwww, I need to look at the menu.” It’s Chick-fil-A. You get a sandwich, nuggets or a salad, pretty much. “Read me the mennnuuuuuu” and then proceeds to get a regular sandwich, like he always does.

His parents are the same way. I can’t just throw out an idea, every detail has to be picked over. “Do you want to see a kids’ movie today? The girls want to go see ‘Migration.’” Well what’s it about, blah blah blah…it’s a kid movie. About ducks. “Well let me read about it, gee, I don’t know.” It is a kid movie. I’m paying. In or out. “Well what are the times.” Well, 11:30, 2, 3:40. “WELLLLLLL, I don’t KNOWWWWWW…” You have nothing else to do today. You are parked on my sofa. In or out.

I just can’t stand how some adults don’t get that not everything is a production, not every single meal is super important, not every single activity is super important, it’s about the big picture and the flow of the day. Just go along to get along, sometimes! In or out!

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Anonymous wrote:I haven’t eaten at Chik Fil A so I would need to see the menu. Being told “sandwich, nuggets or salad” would not be enough for me. Sorry haters.

Sorry moron, in this case OPs husband has eaten there. He knows what's on the menu, this isn't about you. But then you're probably the type OP is talking about. Can't go with the flow, need to be special, all eyes on you.

I got your attention, didn’t I?

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Anonymous wrote:I haven’t eaten at Chik Fil A so I would need to see the menu. Being told “sandwich, nuggets or salad” would not be enough for me. Sorry haters.

Do you have a phone? Use it and look up the menu. If you miss the order window, oh well. I’m sure you can find a way to feed yourself.

Yes, I’ll likely get some real food for myself, not chemical-saturated fast food.

Be sure to tell the 6yo birthday kid that you won’t be participating in their birthday dinner, Dad. Or should you have gotten to override a child’s birthday pick?

I would never buy a kid CFA, since, as someone pointed out earlier, it is owned by homophobes. So it wouldn’t be an option. But keep financing hate, while you proudly display an “in this house we believe” sign on your lawn. Hypocrisy at its finest.

Please list every brand you consume, from hand sanitizer to shoes to clothing to pens to your car. Go on, we’ll wait. And then we’ll start picking every corporation you support apart. Don’t forget every stock in every brokerage account, even the ones you don’t personally pick. We will wait.

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Anonymous wrote:I haven’t eaten at Chik Fil A so I would need to see the menu. Being told “sandwich, nuggets or salad” would not be enough for me. Sorry haters.

Do you have a phone? Use it and look up the menu. If you miss the order window, oh well. I’m sure you can find a way to feed yourself.

Yes, I’ll likely get some real food for myself, not chemical-saturated fast food.

Be sure to tell the 6yo birthday kid that you won’t be participating in their birthday dinner, Dad. Or should you have gotten to override a child’s birthday pick?

I would never buy a kid CFA, since, as someone pointed out earlier, it is owned by homophobes. So it wouldn’t be an option. But keep financing hate, while you proudly display an “in this house we believe” sign on your lawn. Hypocrisy at its finest.

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Anonymous wrote:You seem really pushy OP
If you feel this way, just don't ask them or ask all ahead of time. I hate pushy people who rush others. Your imaginary deadline isn't anyone's issue. It's yours

I’m not OP, but how do you get anything done? A movie starts at a set time. That’s not an imaginary deadline. If you show up 40 minutes late, they don’t restart it from the beginning for you.

Movies are scheduled well in advance.

So your spouse can’t wake up on a rainy Sunday and suggest a movie? That’s sad AF.

WTH? Of course they can suggest it but it is super annoying to get bent out of shape over it like OP is doing. Suggest a movie, not demand it and be pushy AF about it.

She wasn’t demanding or pushy. She was taking her kids to see a movie they requested. She invited ILs to come along, on her dime, and gave them more than an hour to decide. If you think that’s “pushy,” you have issues.

Oooh, “on her dime.” Wowowowow. A movie. Noblesse oblige, indeed!

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Anonymous wrote:I haven’t eaten at Chik Fil A so I would need to see the menu. Being told “sandwich, nuggets or salad” would not be enough for me. Sorry haters.

Do you have a phone? Use it and look up the menu. If you miss the order window, oh well. I’m sure you can find a way to feed yourself.

Yes, I’ll likely get some real food for myself, not chemical-saturated fast food.

Be sure to tell the 6yo birthday kid that you won’t be participating in their birthday dinner, Dad. Or should you have gotten to override a child’s birthday pick?

I would never buy a kid CFA, since, as someone pointed out earlier, it is owned by homophobes. So it wouldn’t be an option. But keep financing hate, while you proudly display an “in this house we believe” sign on your lawn. Hypocrisy at its finest.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP, I couldn't live with you either. I am a perfectionist sort of person who married another perfectionist sort of a person and we had perfectionist kids. It's a wonder we can get anything done! But when we do, we're happy and the quality is great

We're research scientists, BTW.
If ever you get cancer, you'll be reassured to know that the people who worked on your treatment didn't go: "Eh what the heck, Molecule A is practically the same as Molecule B: just throw whichever in the mix. DONE!"

It takes all kinds, right?

Well, certainly, but some of us know the difference between working on cancer treatments and getting tired, hungry kids some fast food as requested by the birthday girl on the way home from an excursion. I’m not rushing anyone along when ordering at a fine dining establishment. There is an art to knowing when to be a perfectionist and when to go with the flow. I think it’s a valuable skill. -OP

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Anonymous wrote:I haven’t eaten at Chik Fil A so I would need to see the menu. Being told “sandwich, nuggets or salad” would not be enough for me. Sorry haters.

Do you have a phone? Use it and look up the menu. If you miss the order window, oh well. I’m sure you can find a way to feed yourself.

Yes, I’ll likely get some real food for myself, not chemical-saturated fast food.

Be sure to tell the 6yo birthday kid that you won’t be participating in their birthday dinner, Dad. Or should you have gotten to override a child’s birthday pick?

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Anonymous wrote:You seem really pushy OP
If you feel this way, just don't ask them or ask all ahead of time. I hate pushy people who rush others. Your imaginary deadline isn't anyone's issue. It's yours

I’m not OP, but how do you get anything done? A movie starts at a set time. That’s not an imaginary deadline. If you show up 40 minutes late, they don’t restart it from the beginning for you.

Movies are scheduled well in advance.

So your spouse can’t wake up on a rainy Sunday and suggest a movie? That’s sad AF.

WTH? Of course they can suggest it but it is super annoying to get bent out of shape over it like OP is doing. Suggest a movie, not demand it and be pushy AF about it.

She wasn’t demanding or pushy. She was taking her kids to see a movie they requested. She invited ILs to come along, on her dime, and gave them more than an hour to decide. If you think that’s “pushy,” you have issues.

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Anonymous wrote:I think these people must not be understanding that you've actually made a decision, not so much throwing an idea out. If you've already decided to see Migration, it's not "do you feel like seeing a movie today?" They think there's room to negotiate or come up with alternatives. For indecisive people, maybe your language needs to be more direct without question marks.

Yeah the dude needs to understand that it’s the kids who run the show and he, I am sorry, “they” are an afterthought

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Anonymous wrote:I haven’t eaten at Chik Fil A so I would need to see the menu. Being told “sandwich, nuggets or salad” would not be enough for me. Sorry haters.

Sorry moron, in this case OPs husband has eaten there. He knows what's on the menu, this isn't about you. But then you're probably the type OP is talking about. Can't go with the flow, need to be special, all eyes on you.

I got your attention, didn’t I?

I mean, the PP is right. You apparently weren’t capable of reading the OP closely enough to see that the husband had eaten there many times before. So your comment about *you* having never eaten there was completely irrelevant.

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Anonymous wrote:I haven’t eaten at Chik Fil A so I would need to see the menu. Being told “sandwich, nuggets or salad” would not be enough for me. Sorry haters.

Sorry moron, in this case OPs husband has eaten there. He knows what's on the menu, this isn't about you. But then you're probably the type OP is talking about. Can't go with the flow, need to be special, all eyes on you.

I got your attention, didn’t I?

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP, I couldn't live with you either. I am a perfectionist sort of person who married another perfectionist sort of a person and we had perfectionist kids. It's a wonder we can get anything done! But when we do, we're happy and the quality is great

We're research scientists, BTW.
If ever you get cancer, you'll be reassured to know that the people who worked on your treatment didn't go: "Eh what the heck, Molecule A is practically the same as Molecule B: just throw whichever in the mix. DONE!"

It takes all kinds, right?

Well, certainly, but some of us know the difference between working on cancer treatments and getting tired, hungry kids some fast food as requested by the birthday girl on the way home from an excursion. I’m not rushing anyone along when ordering at a fine dining establishment. There is an art to knowing when to be a perfectionist and when to go with the flow. I think it’s a valuable skill. -OP

PP you replied to. Sorry, I disagree entirely. Just because it's lowly fast-food, doesn't mean every item is the same. Just because it's a kid movie, doesn't mean there isn't a wide range of quality. It seems as though you care more about getting through the day, even if you don't enjoy it, than you care about savoring each moment. That's unutterably strange to me.

I actually don't know any people like you, OP. None of my friends or relatives are as impatient/impulsive and seemingly un-discerning as you. I agree that extreme personalities are always a little difficult, but in the case you're describing, I have to wonder if you're the extreme personality.

Please know that the DCUM sample is very skewed. You are the difficult ones. Spending time thinking about the Chik Fil A order when you know a person is trying to put the order in and you know what the options at Chik Fil A are is rude and self centered. You are saying - I do not care that you are the person responsible for the planning and procurement of the meal and the planning and organization of the rest of the day. Please stop what you are doing and wait while I, king of the castle have some deep thoughts about the merits of each CFA option, and also, read the CFA menu to me, like you are my servant, because I am too busy to pull up the phone or recall the information that is likely stored in my brain about the CFA options. I need to really think hard about whether I want the strips or the nuggets, or a grilled v fried sandwich. Because every single morsel that goes into my mouth must be absolute perfection and exactly what I desire at all times.

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Anonymous wrote:I haven’t eaten at Chik Fil A so I would need to see the menu. Being told “sandwich, nuggets or salad” would not be enough for me. Sorry haters.

Do you have a phone? Use it and look up the menu. If you miss the order window, oh well. I’m sure you can find a way to feed yourself.

Yes, I’ll likely get some real food for myself, not chemical-saturated fast food.