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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Frustrated. We are close to completing an infidelity course/which included therapy sessions with an expert in this area. (3 month thing)

Affair is over, but it was an “I love you”, 8 month type thing.  I literally think about it and things he said to her about me, our marriage, etc constantly (I have texts).

While my marriage is in a positive trending place, and I’m hopeful about the future, I still bring things up, ask questions and it seems to really annoy my husband.  He knows he “should” answer but I worry that it’s causing problems for us even though my thoughts, questions, constant imagery is definitely causing problems for me.

Feeling very damned if I do, damned if I don’t dilemma [/quote]

That’s his problem not yours.  If he’d been faithful you wouldn’t have to bring it up.  Does he expect you to forget and just move on? Does he have suggestions for how you can try to move on, such as couples therapy? Do you trust this person enough to stay married? What do you want or need from him? And how do you get that? Just repeating the problem without a plan to either accept or move on sounds exhausting for you both. Your thoughts OP?

(Therapist) [/quote]

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