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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think this is a generational thing where they expect kids to call- I think it’s their interpretation of showing respect for elders. I think they also get more selfish as they age and [b]truly do not care how their kids are doing[/b]. I’ve accepted it and am building caring and reciprocal relationships with other people in my life to replace it.[/quote]

I can't imagine ever feeling this way about my adult children.
I want to know everything about my children's lives, and can't wait to talk with them. I tell them very little about my life unless I feel it's necessary to balance the conversation or unless they ask. They are still in their late teens/earlly 20s, so maybe they will start expressing more interest in my life as they get older, but for now, I mostly listen to them. If I ask how things are going, and their answer is "fine," then I fill in the empty space with a little news about me, hoping they will reciprocate with news about what they are thinking and feeling, but if they don't want to share, then I don't push it. 
I'm so sorry, PP. I truly do not understand parents who treat their children this way. I pray I never become selfish as I get older. I'm looking forward to having grandchildren someday, and I want to be welcome in my children's and grandchildren's lives. [/quote]

You sound like a good parent. Unfortunately, not all of us have parents like you. I'm not the PP you quoted, but I pretty firmly believe my mom does not care how I am doing. Or her grandchild to be honest. If she does, she has a funny way of showing it. I've had to beg her to spend time with my DD and suggested 1x a month she do something with her and she can't even find time in her "busy" schedule for that. It's sad.[/quote]

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