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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I didn’t mean how I’m doing in a literal sense. Mainly that my mother doesn’t inquire anything about me personally. We could talk every day and she’s know nothing about me because the conversation is always redirected if I offer any info about my life. [/quote]

My FIL was like this. He called every Sunday night and talked and talked about himself, my MIL, my SIL, then said "How ya doin', good?" and moved on before I could say anything. He didn't want to talk to DH, just to me to tell me all about himself and other people, some of whom I'd never met. After a while I stopped answering the phone or calling him back. He's since passed away, and I don't think he ever knew or cared to know anything real about me, which made me sad. I know he loved my DH, and maybe even me, but his manner of "communication" was very strange and distant. Sometimes I, like you, tried to tell him about something going on with my job or the kids, and he'd listen, then immediately change the subject without responding to what I said. I might have been talking to myself alone in a room. [/quote]

This is my mom 100%. I know intimate details about people in her life like her coworkers that I've never met, yet I know she couldn't tell you the name of the company I work for (and have for a decade). Or the school my DD attends. Or the names of friends I've had for 20+ years. Once I realized this, I was done with her and stopped answering her calls or calling her. She never ever calls me and refuses to text (she's not even that old). She only knows what's going on based off of what I post on social media (which isn't much) and the 5 or so times a year I see her. She also lives 15 minutes away. [/quote]

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