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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The nanny was so offended by a request for a doctor’s note that she quit?!?  Honestly she was going to leave you high and dry at some point… if you didn’t give her the right bonus, if you didn’t give her enough PTO, whatever. Good riddance.

OP even assuming the nanny quit all because of your request for a doctors note (what a dumb reason to quit a job), * you * are not “ruining” your friend’s life. There’s no reason this nanny can’t continue working for your friend (after all, you’re the big bad villain here, right?). That’s on the nanny, though she and other posters here want you to think it’s your fault. BS.

It’s also not your fault your friend doesn’t have parents/in laws/backup sitters.

Your friend is stressed and overwhelmed. Give her time to get her childcare lined up (daycare sounds way better than a mercurial nanny) and you guys will probably be able to patch things up. And if not, that’s ok - life goes on.

Lots of lessons to learn here, but all I see is an entitled nanny trying to get out of a nanny share by putting the blame on you. [/quote]

the nanny gave FOUR weeks notice which was way more grace than OP gave her. [/quote]

Fair point.  Most nanny employers make do with two weeks - or sometimes no notice.  I absolutely believe there are grounds for immediate resignation, such as if the nanny's physical or mental health is at stake.  But doctor's notes are pretty routine - my local hospital includes one with every patient discharge.  It just doesn't seem like something to quit your job over!

I agree with other PPs who say maybe she wasn't happy.  Satisfied employees who are paid well don't resign over something like this, and in such dramatic fashion.  And then to leave the friend - who did nothing wrong! - high and dry.  Sounds like the nanny knew she could get a better gig somewhere else.

OP you are super lucky to have in laws to fill in.  [b]Your friend should go the daycare route if they don't have backups[/b].[/quote]

Sure, because it's just so easy to find a daycare spot at a random time of year in less than a month  :roll: [/quote]

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