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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No advice just major major sympathy. This was one of my biggest fears with having a son. He has autism and struggles with a lot of things but buying into toxic masculinity isn’t one of them. [/quote]

OP, also no real tested advice but major sympathy and a little background. My now 19 y.o. DS went through this in late MS/early HS and I was panicking inside, especially as I am fairly political and eschew this culture, especially when bordering incels/misogyny. DS was not really happy during this period and struggling socially. While he never really expressed anti-female opinions, he did flirt with other extreme points and personalities. We had a lot of dinner discussions, a lot. I remained fairly consistent about my values and why I backed Democrats - "I might be able to look at GOP policy, but cannot do as long as it is inextricably tied with racism, bigotry, and anti-choice." When I offered examples, I only shared ones that I knew were based in facts. I'm so glad that I stuck to my guns here because a few years later, DS told his sister, "Mom makes these statements, but when I fact check her later, she is nearly always right or close to it."

The suggestion of pointing out that "selling advice" on line generally tracks with needing a revenue stream because the project they are claiming is so hot for them is not kicking off cash - that sounds good to share even if not acknowledged in the moment. Perhaps look into what might be in-college entreprenuerial opportunities, including summer internships. Perhaps listen, ask questions, and try to support the areas which may be less toxic.

This is so so hard. I would also look into cults and any info on the mis/disinformation of these particular individuals/groups.

I really wish the best for you here. Also, if you are married, then I would try to enlist DH as perhaps also important for DS to see a united front. While my DH is not as political, our values generally overlap and DS would know that DH would not be happy with any scams as well as misogyny.

Wishing you all the best![/quote]

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