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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I'm really sorry that posters are attacking you personally here.  That really sucks.[/quote]

[b]We feel for the brother who has done the most,[/b] and her dad who clearly isn’t in a position to think clearly. Many of us can relate to the sibling who bears the brunt of responsibility. If it falls squarely to plan my mom’s funeral with no help or support from my siblings, then the funeral is going to be on the date of my choosing. Though that would never happen, because my siblings and I work as a team when the chips are down.[/quote]

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I fully agree that he has done the most-but NOT because my other brother and I refuse to.   He has done the most because that is what my parents laid out LEGALLY.  He has the option to refuse, and like I said, we've actively encouraged him to just step back and NOT come to my Dad's rescue!  We've told him that he should consider giving my Dad ultimatums ("Dad I can't help you with your finances unless you give me clear and complete access to X accounts.")   We've encouraged him to seek getting my dad declared legally incompetent and researched resources.     
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This is a whole lot of you telling your brother what to do instead of actually doing anything.  YOU could take over the process to declare dad incompetent; YOU could plan the funeral.

I don’t blame him for not accommodating you, he probably just wants you to shut up.[/quote]

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