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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The reason is because many of today's parents are deathly afraid to parent their kids.   Letting children dye their hair is moronic.  Some say they need to "express themselves".  The truth is that children are naturally always expressing themselves.  The parent's job is to teach and train children on when and how to properly express themselves in a constructive manner.

[b]People use tattoos, loud hair dye, piercings, etc. as a crutch to make them somehow stand out and apart from a humdrum generic crowd.  This is because they either are not naturally pretty or handsome enough or self assured to rely on their God given and parent groomed traits to impress and persuade others[/b].[/quote]

Funny, I was just thinking about this the other day. I was a tween and teen in the 1980s/90s with "loud hair dye" and piercings. Not infrequently, adults would tease me about my appearance. Once in a while, a squarish, leering adult would ask something to the effect of why did I go out of my way to look so unusual if I didn't want their attention. After some thought, I realized that I cultivated the look I did not to attract attention from the "humdrum, generic crowd", but to identify myself to like-minded people as an individual who wanted to reject mainstream culture. I didn't want to be "pretty" by conventional standards. I didn't want to impress or persuade mainstream kids or adults -- except maybe to make them fear/avoid me. I wanted to get away from these people, and be with the other freaks!

You think some kid's hair color is "improper"? Jesus. Get a life and stop policing the aesthetic choices of people you don't know or understand.[/quote]

I had a similar experience. I dyed my hair, shaved my head, and wore male clothing (I’m female) throughout my teens. Looking back, a lot of it was because I was extremely pretty - thin, blond hair, blue eyes, and I look like a celebrity known for her beauty - and I wanted to reject all of that. I wanted to be valued for who I was as a person, not what I looked like. If I was going to be stared at and heckled, it was going to be on MY terms, and it would be for looking “weird” rather than being beautiful. And I absolutely did not want any boy or any friends who were only interested in me because of my looks, I wanted someone who valued ME.

I wonder if kids nowadays are going through the same thing? Basically rejecting the standards of beauty that have been forced on them. That your value isn’t based on how many people of the opposite sex find you attractive. [/quote]

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