In my day everybody was getting bodywaves and crimping or frosting their hair.

Anonymous wrote:My blonde first grader dyes her hair whenever she wants. I do it for her at home with semipermanent color that lasts 1-4 weeks. She’s not LBTQ and neither are we, but if she is eventually than that’s just fine too. It’s just a trend and is fun, no harm done.

Why on earth did you resurrect a thread this old to share this?

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Anonymous wrote:The reason is because many of today's parents are deathly afraid to parent their kids. Letting children dye their hair is moronic. Some say they need to "express themselves". The truth is that children are naturally always expressing themselves. The parent's job is to teach and train children on when and how to properly express themselves in a constructive manner.

People use tattoos, loud hair dye, piercings, etc. as a crutch to make them somehow stand out and apart from a humdrum generic crowd. This is because they either are not naturally pretty or handsome enough or self assured to rely on their God given and parent groomed traits to impress and persuade others.

Funny, I was just thinking about this the other day. I was a tween and teen in the 1980s/90s with "loud hair dye" and piercings. Not infrequently, adults would tease me about my appearance. Once in a while, a squarish, leering adult would ask something to the effect of why did I go out of my way to look so unusual if I didn't want their attention. After some thought, I realized that I cultivated the look I did not to attract attention from the "humdrum, generic crowd", but to identify myself to like-minded people as an individual who wanted to reject mainstream culture. I didn't want to be "pretty" by conventional standards. I didn't want to impress or persuade mainstream kids or adults -- except maybe to make them fear/avoid me. I wanted to get away from these people, and be with the other freaks!

You think some kid's hair color is "improper"? Jesus. Get a life and stop policing the aesthetic choices of people you don't know or understand.

I had a similar experience. I dyed my hair, shaved my head, and wore male clothing (I’m female) throughout my teens. Looking back, a lot of it was because I was extremely pretty - thin, blond hair, blue eyes, and I look like a celebrity known for her beauty - and I wanted to reject all of that. I wanted to be valued for who I was as a person, not what I looked like. If I was going to be stared at and heckled, it was going to be on MY terms, and it would be for looking “weird” rather than being beautiful. And I absolutely did not want any boy or any friends who were only interested in me because of my looks, I wanted someone who valued ME.

I wonder if kids nowadays are going through the same thing? Basically rejecting the standards of beauty that have been forced on them. That your value isn’t based on how many people of the opposite sex find you attractive.

Anonymous wrote:How many kids aged 5-10 do you know that already identify as LGBTQ? I don't know any. And of all the kids that I know with hair of a color not found in nature, which is many, only one identifies herself as a lesbian.

Really? In my child's 5th grade class of about 30 I can think of 2 that have made it known.

Anonymous wrote:This is a trend I've seen even on very young trans kids. What's the story here? And why would a parent allow a 5-10 year old dye their hair pink or purple?

More the merrier!

My blonde first grader dyes her hair whenever she wants. I do it for her at home with semipermanent color that lasts 1-4 weeks. She’s not LBTQ and neither are we, but if she is eventually than that’s just fine too. It’s just a trend and is fun, no harm done.

Children like to experiment with hair dye and styles too! Don't sweat the small stuff. Soon the novelty and this fashion craze will simply fade away just like the hair dye! But girls should be taught and reminded often that their self esteem and self worth comes from the inside out and not vice versa! Only when children feel self confidence in themselves just as they are will they stop striving to follow trends and fashion statements that only chip away at who they really are....already acceptable and beautiful now!

I know this was posted like 2 years ago, but I saw all the shitty and snarky responses. I just started highschool, and for the past few years I've been dying my hair every few months. I honestly find that majority of Lgbt+ teens probably do this because it's so hard to control things that go on in our lives so we find other ways to take control or to express ourselves. I'm sure this goes for other teens too, but every single depressed or Lgbt+ kid I know could agree with me. I hope this helps for anyone else looking for an actual answer.

Anonymous wrote:It's funny how OP was walking around thinking she was surrounded by LGBT kids who are not.

I'm the OP of this thread from last year that some one revived. No, I was asking about kids that I know to be trans or gender curious or non conforming. Helpful to know that it's broader than just that group. It's not a thing at my kids school.

Anonymous wrote:OP sounds out of touch. Soooo many kids dye their hair these days; it's not confined to trans kids at all. My 1st grader's friend had a streak of purple in her hair last year and she's not trans; NBD.

Actually the weird hair color trend has died down considerably at least among middle/high schoolers. Oddly enough at the same time the trend seems to have taken off among adults.

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Anonymous wrote:A lot of kids do this. Period.

Really? How many non-trans kids do you know aged under 10 with non-natural hair color? How many six year olds?

Is it your kid? Why do you care?

This thread is 2 yrs old and the OP was either a troll or lives under a rock (or both)

Anonymous wrote:The reason is because many of today's parents are deathly afraid to parent their kids. Letting children dye their hair is moronic. Some say they need to "express themselves". The truth is that children are naturally always expressing themselves. The parent's job is to teach and train children on when and how to properly express themselves in a constructive manner.

People use tattoos, loud hair dye, piercings, etc. as a crutch to make them somehow stand out and apart from a humdrum generic crowd. This is because they either are not naturally pretty or handsome enough or self assured to rely on their God given and parent groomed traits to impress and persuade others.

Funny, I was just thinking about this the other day. I was a tween and teen in the 1980s/90s with "loud hair dye" and piercings. Not infrequently, adults would tease me about my appearance. Once in a while, a squarish, leering adult would ask something to the effect of why did I go out of my way to look so unusual if I didn't want their attention. After some thought, I realized that I cultivated the look I did not to attract attention from the "humdrum, generic crowd", but to identify myself to like-minded people as an individual who wanted to reject mainstream culture. I didn't want to be "pretty" by conventional standards. I didn't want to impress or persuade mainstream kids or adults -- except maybe to make them fear/avoid me. I wanted to get away from these people, and be with the other freaks!

You think some kid's hair color is "improper"? Jesus. Get a life and stop policing the aesthetic choices of people you don't know or understand.

Anonymous wrote:The real question is why don’t more straight kids dye their hair those colors?

They do. People this is not what it once was. Look at instagram, not yours, look at the beauty gurus and what not your kids follow. Colorful hair ranges from the rebel punk look of yore to glam, Kardashian over the top "done" looks and everything in between. They sell the temp powder for streaks in Ulta for goodness sake , and Sephora carried it at the height of the pastel hair 5 years ago. Yes, the same store that carries ysl lipstick and Dior foundation.

That said can we PLEASE GIVE IT A REST with the "innocuous" , "just curious". threads about queer youth that are so obviously designed to bring out the bashing assholes? Stop pretending it's not what you are doing, it's not cute

Seriously, this is not troll bait, these are kids, ones that are still many times more likely to be abandoned by that parents and left homeless or kill themselves than straight cis kids. Amazing how all the bigots manage to "see the light" when it's their beloved nephew or something that finally comes out and they realize the pain their words caused.