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[quote=Anonymous]I actually think there isn't a decision to be made at this moment. You are at capacity. It would be irresponsible to get pregnant on purpose when you're at capacity. So all you can do is try and find more capacity now.

So - five months old. Is baby sleeping through the night and putting himself to sleep for naps and nights? If not, get yourself a copy of The Sleep Easy Solution and sleep train. That's huge. What is hard? What is restorative for you? If you need time out with friends, you need to start figuring out a window when your husband will definitely be there so you can go out, every week. Do you need couple time? You need to start finding babysitters. Too much work around the house? Trying sending out laundry, get a house cleaner, gardener, etc. Do you need more support during the day? Are you taking care of your physical and mental health? Etc, etc, etc.

IF you can get to a place where you have extra energy and time, and you are no longer at capacity, then you can consider devoting that time to a new baby. And then, yes, you should also consider what things you can do to make the first few months easier - night nanny, earlier sleep training, formula vs. nursing, etc - and do it.

I think if you focus on your capacity, you've got a good chance of finding you do have the space for another in time, but maybe not. It's hard to imagine you'll have capacity for a third considering how close together they'd have to be in age, so I think you probably are best off making your peace with never having a third. [/quote]

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