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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This whole thread is so cringe worthy. Full of self-congratulatory “retired” SAHM’s. I am a SAHM but you all make us sounds insufferable. Please stop.[/quote]

Who is us? [/quote]

You can’t group SAHMs together. Every mom is her unique person and another family’s situation has nothing to do with her.

Some people work for money. Others for personal fulfillment.

Some moms are ok with putting kids in daycare all day. I hated sending my kids to daycare even though my kids went to a great one and had a lot of fun with their friends. I still have mom guilt from those days. [/quote]

This is what is cringe worthy. You still have “mom guilt” over sending your kids to a daycare they loved? Do you even hear yourself? How that sounds to other people. Good thing you married a high earner to save your from your “guilt.”[/quote]

Yes, I sent my kids sick to daycare all winter. I wish I stopped working before. I am entitled to my feelings. I couldn’t make it to one of the few events my daycare had and my kid would cry because I couldn’t come. [/quote]

Yeah, I'm a FT WOHM/WFH mom who loves her job.  I have no desire to become a SAHM.  I don't think this is that cringe worthy.  I was never comfortable with (and did not use) full-time group care for mine when they were infants and toddlers.    [/quote]

Ok you are very happy with your child care situation but how is this remotely applicable to OP with a 4 year old and an 8 year old? [/quote]

Sorry that sounded sharper than I meant it to. I also struggled at times with child care when my kids were very young but by 4 they love preschool. It’s not the time I’d be leaving the workforce. My kids are similar ages and I am a PP who cut back so my kids didn’t have long days (feel this even more strongly with elementary school, my oldest is TIRED after school) but I feel like I’m at the point where the decision to stay in the workforce is paying off. [/quote]

It makes me raise an eyebrow when women decide they need to be SAHM only once all their kids start or are on the verge of going to school full-time. I get that sometimes the timing just works like that with family circumstances but it's hard to imagine being super comfortable sending an infant/toddler to daycare all day but only once they're 5 is it too much... [/quote]

I had one kid in kindergarten and one kid in daycare when I stopped working. My older child had trouble reading and my younger kid was a disaster. Perhaps it was just terrible threes. I felt they needed me. There were so many snow days, sick days, volunteer days, field trips, school breaks, teacher work days, etc. i personally thought elementary was far more difficult to manage than when I had a full time nanny plus preschool.

I joined the pta, helped organize and chair many school events. My kids joined swim team and became excellent swimmers. I hosted tons of play dates, especially on those days off that I used to despise. I had another kid and joined moms groups and made many mom friends. I attended and hosted many themed play dates. During Covid, we were able to explore nature and went on many driving trips all around the US while my older kids did virtual school.

I’m not saying this is the ideal life for all moms but this was the mom life I wanted.[/quote]

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