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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She has every right to bail her kid out.   HE will be torn to shreds in jail.   Don't think less of her for that.

In your shoes, I would support a real friend.  I would set boundaries, though.  Not talk about the son.  In the sense she should not seek validation from you that he's a good person.   But can you be a shoulder to lean on?  She's more a victim than an enabler, IMO.   He had that **** in her house.  [/quote]

This 100%[/quote]

You have absolutely ZERO EVIDENCE that the mom was not an enabler.  You have no idea what she observed, thought about, and then suppressed or denied or ignored.  Maybe she didn't see any signs... or maybe she saw a LOT.  Or maybe she found some of his "materials" at some point and was so in denial she didn't even confront him.

The guy was an adult living in their house and peddling this stuff for YEARS. You are in no position to decide or proclaim the mom or both parents victims and not at all enablers.  None of us know HOW he got to the place he got to and who knew what when.

In the meantime, OP is totally right to be confused and unsure of how to support or if she even wants to support.  Their son has ruined lives with his abuse or his particpation in an industry that ruins childhoods. Even if they knew nothing about it, no one who is disgusted and wants to distance can be blamed.  It's possibly the most disgusting crime ever, along with murder.[/quote]

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