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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]They think they do but unless you’ve had kids, not babysat or nannies, you will never know how much work it is on a daily basis. [/quote]

I see the opposite a lot too.  People with young kids, who apparently didn't do anything hard before the kids came along so they think it's the hardest thing ever, not recognizing that teenagers also need a lot of work and time, or that being or caretaking for the elderly is, in itself, also exhausting and time consuming, and coming to the conclusion that the world should evolve around them because they are doing the hardest thing ever.

Having healthy young kids was hard, but it's not the hardest thing ever like people make it out to be. [/quote]

TY!

I have twins, who are nearly 20. Yes, those early years were grindingly hard, but it also was for my mom when she had five kids under 7, including one with disabilities. My SiL had one healthy baby who had trouble latching and you'd think the world was on the verge of collapse. Maybe coming from a big family with limited resources helped me have perspective here. And while a childless person may not know the daily tedium and pops of anxiety of being a parent doesn't mean they still don't have any insights on kids.

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Agree with both of these . When I hear complaining like that of the OP it's always from people who spent their prekid years going out to clubs and bars and getting their hair and nails done . Or it's parents with relatively minor issues like baby not being able to latch or having to wear a helmet or be in EI for a few months.

I guess my life experience was different. I had cared for kids since I was young,( just a babysitter and nanny as op puts it,) soni knee how grinding taking care of little kids is.  I was also responsible for gettingy dick and dying father to his  appointments and getting him to take meds. Did a lot of his hospice care. And I'd rather take on 10 toddlers who are crabby due to late dinner than manage elder care. I also have a career with very sick kids so minor issues I just took in stride.

I think people have it right that many people just don't think at all before having kids[/quote]

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