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[quote=Anonymous]I am a trailing spouse, I get the loneliness. How long have you been in your current place and how long do you think you'll be there? We are on the tail end in a place I never wanted to move to that I will be so sad to leave.

You're not going to win the lunch battle, but what if you reframe it for yourself? Instead of focusing on food - run an errand, take a walk, watch a trashy show for your lunch break and eat at your desk. I can have lunch with my kids at their elementary school - although that is 10:40am. Chat with a non-local friend and have a virtual lunch. I find it necessary to get out of the house every day.

Next, work on finding some friends. Say yes to any invites and extend your own. Your kid likes Larla at school? Get her mom's number and suggest meeting up at the park. Volunteer for PTA. Sign the kids up for soccer/swim lessons/gymnastics - strike up a conversation with the moms you start to see on a regular basis. Ask at the library if they have a book club. Take the kids for walks around the neighborhood and look for other kids.

I'm sorry that you're struggling. I'm not an extrovert by any  means, but I've gone out of my comfort zone to extend and accept invites, but I have made some pretty solid friendships. [/quote]

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