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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NP here.  My take on this is that it isn’t the cancellation that’s the problem, it’s how he handled it.  Think about it, if the situation were reversed and you had to cancel a third date with someone who’d purchased tickets and was half way out the door en route to the date, what would you do?  Most likely, in addition to a text you would:

1.[b] Call them on the phone[/b] to ensure they know what’s going on and express your sincere apology/ concern for bailing at the last minute;

2.  [b]Make a serious offer to make it up to them[/b] with an even more terrific date when you do get to see them; and

3.  Follow through on Item 2.

If you don’t really care all that much about developing a relationship with this person, then perhaps these things don’t matter much.  But I think they do matter if you are hoping the relationship will be heading somewhere.  [/quote]

Sending a text instead of phoning was cowardly.  He knew this.  It makes me tend to disbelieve him about his excuse.  Sending a last minute text the OP might not have gotten until she was actually at the destination is a nasty thing to do.  10 minutes before she left the house means she could easily have already been driving.

And I don't like his suggestion that he will pay for the tickets unless OP "can get a refund", and she should "let me know."  A. He should have just offered to pay for the tickets, without the implication that OP needs to jump through the hoops of trying to get a last minute refund.  The "let me know" part irritates me a lot.  This makes it sound as if the guy doesn't plan to call OP to check in after he backed out of their date, but that he'll wait to hear from her about whether she wants him to pay for the tickets.

This has nothing to do with him being a good dad.  He could have phoned OP to cancel the date and assure her that of course he would pay for the tickets, then called her back after his kids were in bed to apologize and give plans for their next date.

This guy doesn't care.  I don't think OP should text him back.[/quote]

Thank you !  All of this.[/quote]

PP has convinced me. Do not text him back.[/quote]

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