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[quote=Anonymous]The OP totally comes off as entitled, despite saying she's not.  She feels justified because the thing she wants is family and not something material.  But there's really no difference.

For me personally, I wish my father hadn't passed away when I was a teenager.  I wish my sibling hadn't passed away when they were a teenager.  I wish my childhood friends lived closer.  I wish my SIL was nicer so that we could have a better relationship with her family.  If I had all these wishes granted, it would be really great.  However, this is not my path.  I also wish I had more money.  I wish I had a nicer house.  I wish I was better at sports.  I wish I'd had a daughter instead of two boys.

We all want things we can't have.  That's life.  Some people mourn the fact that they can't have kids, some mourn not being able to be a famous actor or sports star, whatever it is.  The OP is mourning the loss of the family life she wanted.  Mourn it, but also realize that at some point you need to get over it and stop pining and whining for something that doesn't exist.

If the OP had said something like "I wish I didn't have cancer, I've always eaten really healthily and exercised, and no one else in my family has cancer, so I didn't expect this to happen..." we all know people in this situation, and life just isn't fair.  This is no different, but substitute cancer for her large extended family not being available to her, for one reason or another that is beyond anyone's control.

By definition, no one expects their life to turn out a different way than they expected, but it happens.  You can plan all you want, but in the end, the saying "man plans, god laughs" is true.  Some things are in your control, some aren't.  You do the best you can with the cards you're dealt.  [/quote]

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