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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Good luck, PP. I am similar to you but have a demanding career. No one knew that this happened and all I could do was keep working. I actually switched jobs A few months after I found out. In some ways, my job was so hard - all the meetings and stress and people leaning on me for their work woes. But in other ways, it gave me hours in the day that I had no time to feel the raw pain of what dh had done to me.  I wish you luck in your job search![/quote]

I wish cheaters had the capacity to feel even 1/16 of the raw pain and mental anguish they cause with their selfish actions.  I am another pp that discovered a 4-year affair and it floored me.  It was terrifying.  I’m a very fit athletic person and still lost 15 pounds in 2 weeks from not being able to eat or keep food down. I looked anorexic.   I didn’t sleep for almost a month and for months after I had horrible nightmares and would wake up with mental images and be unable to return to sleep.  I have no idea how I was able to keep my job because I was barely functioning.  [b]The most isolating part is you don’t share the info to protect your kids so you are totally isolated. [/b] I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy.

I get very angry when I hear how nonchalant some of these APs are on this board and how they aren’t hurting anyone because nobody will find out.  Really???  They break up families for their genitals.

They all can rot in hell and suffer the karma coming their way.  [/quote]

So so true. You try to protect your kids and carry this internal bomb [/quote]

DCUM is the only place I can write my feelings out bc the kids don’t know. Our families and friends don’t know. The advice i got was to wait until I was ready to divorce before telling everyone. I feel so alone keeping up with my career, the kids, and friends. I am so grateful that we are quarantined bc I don’t have to see people that much. I’m dying a little bit every day. [/quote]

I felt the same about quarantine.  In a way a blessing because I don’t have to face anyone.  I’m an open book people would have known something was seriously wrong.

It’s awful we have to carry this burden.  When my dad died, I had support and comfort and could talk about it.  Everyone knew I was grieving.  With infidelity you grieve completely by yourself.  You can’t function and you have no support.  [/quote]

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