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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thank you. Can I offer to pay for a few extra couples? [/quote]

This is THEIR wedding, not yours.[/quote]

What's the harm in asking? This is her son, after all. After you apologize, you ask if you can invite 2 additional couples, on your expense. Make clear that you understand if the answer is not and you will be fine with it. Then be fine with it.

There is no harm in asking. There is harm in doing without asking first.

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I think the problem with asking is that it looks really lacking in self awareness, because at the dollars and cents moment what she’s saying is “Son, your in laws are paying for a $50,000 party to celebrate your marriage. If I chip in $500 can I dictate the guest list?” That’s a really unattractive position to start off with, both in how your daughter in law views your attitude about what you’re entitled to, and how your sons future in laws are going to view his family if he does try to fight this corner.  You could offer to pay half and then realistically expect more guest list access but just chipping in for your “extra people” while someone else is buying dinner for you and your husband and your other children is really off.[/quote]

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