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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote] Explain to us exactly what incredible thing you did while married that now you should be paid in perpetuity by your former spouse? Are you still doing his laundry? Cooking him meals? Sleeping with him? Doing the job of a SAHM? If you’ve stopped rendering your SAHM services to him, why is he forced to invest his time [/quote]

You can’t be serious.  I can give you an example (not me, but someone I know very well).  DH and DW met at top law school.  Both worked at law firms after graduation, DH at mid-sized firm and DW at big, prestigious firm.  After having two kids, DW worked part-time (agreed to by both spouses), but still long hours/some late nights and still out-earned DH. Going part-time took DW off partner track.   DH wanted to be partner, could not be parent staying home when kids were sick or leaving at night to relieve nanny.  Also needed to travel frequently.  Spouses agreed DW would stay home to relieve pressure on entire family, but especially DH.  DW quit job after 10+ years, and DH/DW decided to have one more kid.  DH eventually made partner, became very high earner ($1m+ per year).  After 30 years of marriage, youngest DC graduates and DH/DW are almost 60.  DW now has been out of working world for years and is close to retirement age.  No prospects at all in her former chosen field.  DH still making crazy money.  Why don’t you explain why DW should NOT get spousal support?  [/quote]

Clearly this woman is smart and educated and should have a full time job. There is no way that he should be forced to work to pay her she she doesn’t have to work. If she’s working 60+ stressful hours per week like him, and she still can’t make ends meet, perhaps then he might kick in a few $$.

Even in your example, her SAHM role does not justify he works his ass off while she plays tennis. Sorry: fulltime job for her.[/quote]

Probably if he would have cut back, lived on less, and played more tennis, they wouldn't be getting a divorce.  
Why do men work 60+ hour weeks at stressful jobs while their relationships disintegrate?  [/quote]

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