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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP also understand activities like the gym or museums are too much at this stage.  Your wife probably feels exhausted, that's depression, it isn't your wife.  Everything will be exhausting and overwhelming so take pressure off, let her know that job hunting is not happening until she is better.  Let her know not to worry about the house.  Think baby steps to start with, getting to the doctor, new medication, walk outside for 15 mins.  Then go from there.

Go with her to the doctor and ask to spend a few minutes with the doctor with your wife present to speak about your concerns.

Consider a therapist for yourself, take care of your own mental health.[/quote]

I love how OP just told you that he's exhausted from carrying the full financial burden, taking care of the house and the children without any help from her.  And your response is "tell her not to worry about any of this, continue carrying the full load, who cares that you're exhausted."[/quote]

Then, he can step up and get a better job like many of our husbands so we can stay home for what ever reason.  Its going to be a bigger burden if he has to maintain two homes, pay alimony and child support and only see his kids at best 1/2 the time.  Or, spend a fortune fighting for full custody which he may or many not get and then he'd still probably have to pay child support and alimony and have the full burden of the kids.

She's probably depressed because of how he treats her.  Many of those medications have strong side effects.  I took an anti-depressant for something else and it made me depressed.[/quote]

Why would he have to maintain two homes? No alimony is designed to do that.  His wife worked before so no judge will award alimony in perpetuity.

He doesn't want to step up.  No one owes you a life of staying at home, and no husband should be forced into it - especially when the wife is so damn unpleasant, and there is no hope of him coming home to a clean house, a hot meal and well-tended children.[/quote]

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