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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP I speak as a parent of 2 kids with Asperger’s.  There is a lot of individual variation in life skills.  I think you need to have a conversation with the parents to understand what kind of support your niece may need during this internship. It would help to clarify expectations for everyone. If she has a counselor she works with at school, does she need to find someone locally to fill that role or will you be the one assisting her in thinking through social expectations/ situations.

I would ask about the groceries in the same vein/ joking with my sibling about my own shopping habits/ budget and asking if how niece  handles those things at school. I would also ask about other preferences like shampoo/ towels etc.  I like to be a good host, but it also serves to remind the parents of the needs/ complexities of their child.

Since these challenges run in families I have seen wildly varying expectations on all sides, so open conversations are definitely the way to go.  I often send gift cards to people who are hosting my kids to cover incidentals.  Nobody agrees to take money in advance, but my DD needs strawberries with her breakfast in the morning and I would rather defray those weird costs than have someone feel resentful.  I also send my kids with enough spending money to buy dinner and instructions to clean up after home- cooked meals in any way possible.

But my Aspie who is very particular about [b]dishwasher losing[/b] is instructed to help clear the table and load/  unload the car, entertain young children.  Because nobody needs feedback from a guest about [b]dishwasher losing.
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Good luck! This can be a great experience for you and your niece![/quote]

What's dishwasher losing?
Did you mean loading?
Do you use swype?  :wink: [/quote]

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