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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's too late for you now, OP, but this should have been addressed years ago.  I don't say this to castigate you, but more to use your unfortunate circumstance as a lesson for all of us.  Just as we have to prepare our kids to one day live without us, we need to bear in mind that older couples may one day be singletons and will have to be able to be able to survive that way.  So if we have a parent who knows nothing about their finances, or can't operate any of the household appliances, we should be thinking about helping them gain those skills before it's too late![/quote]
You say that because you don't realize the extent of my mother's dependency. We WERE all aware of it (although my sister and I didn't fully appreciate just how bad it was until last year), and my dad, sister, and I all tried to get her to learn some basics (INCLUDING working the TV remote) so that if Dad died first, she wouldn't be completely helpless. She would become enraged, and refuse. We tried for YEARS. The more we pushed, the more she pushed back. It usually ended with her in tears, storming up to her bedroom.

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