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Reply to "Making it work when the wife is the one with the "big job" - s/o today's NY Times article"
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[quote=Anonymous][quote]Anonymous wrote: Your lives sound miserable. Completely miserable. You BOTH need to lean out. This fight isn’t going to be solved by completely outsourcing. It’s fine to be ambitious but there is a time for everything. Missing everything in preschool is not the time. Why isn’t both parties leaning out ever a suggestion? Both my husband and I have leaned out. Our lives are amazing. No, we can’t buy a yacht anytime soon, but that’s ok! +1 [/quote] because OP doesn't want to lean out. That's pretty clear from her post. And that's okay. But she has to accept that her DH doesn't really want to lean out either, or rather, he's happy to lean out at work, but he doesn't want to lean in at home. Fortunately, the massive salary allows for a workable solution if she is willing to give up her resentment and control. At that point, he might let go of his regressive ideas bout parenting work as gendered, I suspect he's doing it in part as a revolt. [/quote]
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