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She is not a bad driver. OP is a perfectionist, and he thinks that she is based on his standards. Unfortunately, perfectionist types do not mesh well with sensitive types(they think they do, but it's just piled up resentment waiting to explode.)

She needs to grow some skin and call out his BS. He is not necessary a condescending and argumentative guy. He needs to be reminded to reign it in when he takes it too far.

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OK, here are some of the issues I encountered with her behind the wheel:

1. Forgot to put the car in PARK after stepping out of it. The car began to move!
2. Made a left turn onto a primary road, but turned on the wrong side of the median, so that we were headed into oncoming traffic.
3. Didn't understand how 4-way stops work ... no, you don't just sit there until the coast is clear.
4. Unable to keep the car consistently on the right side of the double yellow line.
5. Fearful of driving too close to the shoulder, despite the fact that there is no alternative on a narrow road.
6. Driving 25 mph when the speed limit is 40 mph and the other cars are flowing at that speed. Yes, it is legal, but it can cause accidents.

You want to put your kids in the car with a driver who made these mistakes all in the span of 20 minutes?
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Stop with the car example.  You are just going to dig in your heels and defend your position and IT DOESN'T MATTER THAT YOU WERE RIGHT.  It doesn't.  Because this is just part of a pattern.  And the pattern is the important thing.  The pattern is what you have to figure out.  The pattern is the reason she's shutting down any discussion any time you criticize her, because I can absolutely guarantee at this point that you are way more critical and opinionated than you think you are.  So now, she "overreacts" to your criticism by shutting down, because she's decided that it's just not worth it to have the discussion.  That's what you need to figure out.  Is she really just so sensitive and thin-skinned that she can't handle any disagreement, or are you so hell-bent on "discussing" and debating every damn thing that she's just sick of it?  (Probably it's something in the middle--she's naturally more sensitive, but you're also too critical.)  And you have to figure out how to change that pattern.  Again, it's not enough to be right.  [/quote]

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